Bride of Christ Ministry World Wide: PAPER PRESENTATIONS 2019 YOUTH CONFERENCE
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PAPER PRESENTATIONS 2019 YOUTH CONFERENCE


PAPER PRESENTATIONS 2019 YOUTH CONFERENCE @ THE HOUSEHOLD OF GOD ONITSHA, ANAMBRA STATE  ON 28 DECEMBER 2019.

BRIDE OF CHRIST MINISTRY WORLDWIDE
2019 Youth Conference.
Programme of Events
Day Session
1.    Introduction of special guest of honour / resource persons
2.    Opening prayer
3.    Welcome address by the host pastor
4.    Keynote address by the Son of Man
5.    Lifestyles that dwindle youth's advancement spiritually and otherwise - Apostle Luke Udochukwu

6.    Questions and answers
7.    Premarital sex and its consequences among the youth - Sister Nzubechi Odoemena
8.    Questions and answers
9.    Godly youth Vs worldly youth: the separating line - Deacon David
10.  Questions and answers
11.   Why difficulty in choosing a life partner from among us? -Sister Alice Ukpong
12.  Questions and answers
13.  Vote of thanks from selected youth
14.  Closing prayer
Night / Plenary Session
1.    Short songs / praises / opening prayer
2.    Preaching
3.    Group discussions
4.    Summary
5.    Closing prayer

WELCOME ADDRESS
Presented by Pastor Mark C. Udochukwu on the Occasion of 2019 Bridal Youth Conference at the Household of God, Onitsha, Anambra State, on December 28, 2019.
 

The Elohim, Apostle Peter Odoemena, the Son of Man, the great Mahdi,
Our worthy resource persons,
Ministers of God here present,
The Bridal Youth,
The entire Saints of God Worldwide,

M
ay I use this wonderful opportunity to welcome all of you to this uncommon occasion of the Bridal Youth Conference. I cannot remember the last time the youth of this age range were assembled from different places for the sake of curbing their excesses, giving them ethical re-orientation and giving them a sense of direction.
2.          All thanks to the unrepentant advocate of youth empowerment in the person of Apostle Peter Odoemena (Blessed be his Holy name), the Lord God Almighty himself. Youth, what do we say to this wonderful father?
3.          My heart leaps for unrestricted gladness for a golden day like this. There are too many reasons to be glad and happy. If you happen to be here as a youth, you are favoured to be a representative of the innumerable youth out there.
4.          There were too many people that died and were buried in the time of Jesus Christ but Jesus showed deep interest in Lazarus and called him back to life. It was possible because Lazarus agreed with Jesus and believed in him even unto death.
5.          If we agree with him today, he will do the same thing he did back yonder by raising us from the death of godlessness, unrighteousness, greed, pride, violence, insolence, insubordination, carelessness, callousness, recklessness, drunkenness, addicts of all sorts and other evil spirits of the last days. (Let me hear somebody say “Amen”).
6.          There are innumerable youth world over, but God in the person of Apostle Peter Odoemena (Blessed be his Holy name) has developed keen interest in you and me. …if you are happy, do something for God.
7.          The theme of this youth conference is Creating Enmity in the Hearts of the Youth against All Forms of Evil of our Days. We all know that the days we are living in are full of unbridled evil caused by different factors ranging from family disappointments to self and societal disillusionments leading to proliferation of different depravities and vices.
8.           We are here as children of God to seek the face of God, brainstorm among ourselves and come out with the best way of redeeming the time because the days are evil (Ephesians 5:16 KJV).
9.          It should be recalled that any plantain without successors coming up will soon be extricated from the surface of the earth. We, unlike Nigerian government strongly believe that youth are the leaders of tomorrow.
10.     However, where we are standing now as youth will determine our sitting position at old age. The quality of any family / nation is dependent on the quality (not quantity) of the youth in there.
11.     If our faith today must be strong, we must go back to the basics and uphold the light that will so shine before men (Mtt. 5:16).
12.     On behalf of the youth present here, let me use this medium to welcome our special resource persons, starting from the Son of Man who is the brain behind this gathering.
13.     Without you, there is no way forward for us. He is the special guest of honour in our midst. I also welcome our able, time tested, respected, knowledgeable, practical and God-fearing resource persons – Apostle Luke Udochukwu Ojiakor, Mummy Nzubechi Odoemena, Deacon David Mba and Mummy Alice Ukpong.
14.     The Almighty God himself did the sifting and selection. May the Elohim continue to be your strength is my fervent prayer.
15.     It will be a gross negligence on my side to end this address without acknowledging our indefatigable parents with whose supports we were able to make it coming here. Our prayer is, may we never be disappointments to God, to the society, to you and to ourselves.
16.     We all with oneness of heart have already condemned ourselves ahead of time and have come to make a ‘U’ turn so that we can enter the coming New Year 2020 with newness of heart and life.
17.     Once more, you are all welcome.



THE KEYNOTE ADDRESS DELIVERED ON THE OCASSION OF THE 2019 BRIDAL YOUTH CONFERENCE
BY
APOSTLE PETER ODOEMENA
THE VERY SON OF MAN
THE LORD GOD ALMIGHTY
THE UNREPENTANT ADVOCATE OF YOUTH EMPOWERMENT WORLDWIDE

THEME: CREATING ENMITY IN THE HEARTS OF THE YOUTHS AGAINST ALL FORMS OF EVIL OF OUR DAYS
On
Saturday, 28th December, 2019
At
The Headquarters of the Bride of Christ Ministry Worldwide, GTC, Onitsha, Anambra State


THE KEYNOTE ADDRESS

I
 welcome of all of you from the different states where you came from. I am amazed that we have this great number of youths in this Faith within this age bracket.
2.          I am astonished. Assuming we are to have any Camp Meeting, I mean this age bracket alone has taken over the whole hall.
3.          I am happy that I accepted this invitation. It is really wonderful. What if we lowered it down to 12 years? It then means that this place will not accommodate us.
4.          You are all welcome. And I believe you are going to have a wonderful time staying together.
5.          Can you imagine? I think from the look of things, I am having equal number of the males and the females, going by the seats arrangement. I have counted the number of seats in front and the number rows on both sides.
6.          It is a welcome development, but it is a great challenge. It poses a great challenge to the Ministry and to every family, and even to the society.
7.          What if we churned out these numbers we have here within this age bracket? If we succeed in churning them out as notorious criminals, can Nigeria have rest till eternity? Okay. Do not expect Me to be classic in My approach.
8.           I have given you too many Messages, but there is one thing you lack, for which cause necessity was laid on us to assemble you. It is the same thing your parents also lack. What is that thing? COMMITMENT. I SAY, COMMITMENT.
9.          I was looking forward to seeing one of the youth who is a professional videographer and photographer as well.
10.     One Ohiaorgu from either Aba or Isiala-Ngwa. I think it is one of the sons of Pastor Chike Ohiaorgu. He is a professional. Is he here? Was he aware of the meeting? Is he a member of the Faith?
11.     What could have kept him away from a meeting like this where his fellow youth would have enjoyed, I mean, his craft? May be he is engaged with the heathens.
12.     He is in a money making venture for this is their period. But there could not be a better place to display his works more than here. May be that would have helped others to begin to covet that particular art.
13.     I know too many students that indulge in that work on a part-time basis.
14.     I will come to that because I was shocked that the stage comedian that piloted the affairs during the wedding between Pastor Chibuzor and My daughter Oluebube at Nsukka happened to be a professional medical doctor.
15.      You begin to wonder. A professional medical doctor practicing medicine and at the same time, he is a stage comedian. 
16.     He said he derives greater pleasure and fulfillment in that stage comedy work than in medical practice.
17.     That is why he does not rest. Almost all the governors in the South-east engages his services. His clinic is also flourishing. So we have academic knowledge versus talent. He did not go to any University to learn that art, but he went to University to learn art of medicine.
18.     Our pastor said we should not be classic. I want you to be intelligent enough for I earlier told you while motivating you to higher height, that the certificate you acquire in any university or higher institution may disappoint you if no talent is attached to it.
19.      TALENT PLUS ACADEMIC KNOWLEDGE CAN GIVE YOU A PLACE WHERE THERE IS NO PLACE. Note it very well.
20.     There is no human being that is not bestowed with one talent or another. I will still come to that. I am giving you the highlight. No matter the academic knowledge, no matter the talent, there is but one transporter. And that is CHARACTER.
21.     If you obtain the best knowledge in the world, develop the best skill in the world and you lack SELF-CONTROL and SELF-DISCIPLINE, both the knowledge and the skill profit you absolutely nothing.
22.     You will remain a disappointment to yourself, to your family and to the society. That is why I told you in everything, in every human endeavour, in all your pursuits do not forget your career transporter, which remains nothing but your CHARACTER.
23.     WHY IS IT CHARACTER? WHEN MONEY IS LOST, NOTHING IS LOST. WHEN LIFE IS LOST, SOMETHING IS LOST. BUT WHEN CHARACTER IS LOST, EVERYTHING IS COMPLETELY LOST.
24.      In the society, if we can be sincere to ourselves, we will acknowledge that the society is froth with human beings without virtues; Human beings without core values.
25.     In other words, the society is filled with people that resemble human beings. Why? Their characters are nothing to write home about. Their characters cannot propel them to higher height and to noble achievement.
26.     Hence, they settle down at base level and then begin to perpetrate all acts of injustice, disturbing their families, disturbing the society, because they have made themselves failures by choosing to go in the wrong path.
27.     So you must learn to choose the good path which no man taketh away from you. I say welcome to you once again.
28.     This Message I have here, was handled on the first day of September 2006. How many years from now? I think it is about 13 years plus.
29.      And inasmuch as you say I should not speak English, I am not even good at blowing grammar. After all, I did not go to school. Follow me gradually.
30.     You say you invited THE SON OF MAN for the keynote address. I must see the door before I will look for the key. And I have seen the door. What is the door?
31.     The door is your heart o! I say, the door is nothing but your heart. So, the Word is the key that unlocks every true heart.
32.     Any true heart must be unlocked by the Word of God and by the Word of wisdom. Christ is the wisdom of God. So the key is, pay attention.
33.     THE KEY THAT UNLOCKS YOUR HEART, UNLOCKS YOUR PRESENT, UNLOCKS YOUR FUTURE IS THE WORD OF GOD WHICH SAYS THAT THE FEAR OF GOD IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM BUT FOOLS DESPISE THE WORD OF GOD. AND CHRIST IS THE WISDOM OF GOD AND ALSO THE POWER OF GOD.
34.     SO, THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING LIES IN GIVING YOURSELF OVER TO OBTAINING THE WISDOM OF GOD WHICH WILL HELP YOU TO ESCAPE FROM THE EVILS OF YOUR DAY.
35.     FOR WITHOUT THE WISDOM OF GOD ENGRAVED IN YOUR HEART YOU MUST GO THE WAY OF OTHERS.
36.     Why is it so? The fear of God restrains everybody from evil, for no one will like to confront God. You! Have a confrontation with God? Can you stand it? Who will like to be God’s enemy? Who will like to be quarreling with God?  Who will like to go to the judgment seat of God? Who will like to settle his dispute with God?
37.     You see why, if you refuse to do what you ought to do from now, that which you are avoiding must surely befall you. You do not want to come to judgment before God, do not behave in a way where God will call you to question.
38.     This is because, for that wrong behavior, you are answerable to Almighty God. You may escape from the prying eyes of everybody including your parents.
39.     Can anybody escape the prying eyes of God? That is why His judgment is always perfect and he judges without respect of persons. He has no favourites.
40.     The key that opens the door to success, the door to your future. Remember too many things are attached to your future. Too many things are attached to your future. That is why your future needs protection.
41.      IF YOU DO NOT PROTECT YOUR TODAY, THERE IS NO ASSURANCE THAT TOMORROW WILL NOT BE USELESS. IF YOU PROTECT YOUR TODAY, YOUR FUTURE IS PROTECTED, FOR YOUR FUTURE STARTS TODAY.
42.     TAKE NOTE OF WHAT I AM SAYING. I am called to give you a keynote address, and I have decided to talk to you randomly.
43.     I do not want to be rigid by tagging a title to whatever I am saying, but I want to touch on almost everything.
44.     Just as everybody is enjoined by God in the Word of God saying “If you want to unlock the future, unlock your heart with the Word of God which is the wisdom of God.”
45.     Then the Word says to all of us that believe in God, “First seek ye the kingdom of God and its righteousness, and every other thing will be added to you.”
46.     [Matthew 6:33] Can you now see that the future has too many things attached to it? Everything life entails? Everything that is meant to help you succeed in life? To make a reasonable individual?
47.     You need a good husbandman. You need a good wife. You are vying for good children. You are vying for good family. You are vying for a good society.
48.     As you are vying to enhance your life, your education is not left out and your craft is not left out.
49.     Everything that is involved in all your human activities for you to make a success out of any of them, the fear of God is there, which is the beginning of wisdom, but fools have no room for wisdom, for they do not know what wisdom is all about.
50.     WISDOM MEANS ONE’S ABILITY TO DEPART FROM EVIL. IF YOU DO NOT HAVE THE ABILITY TO DEPART FROM ALL FORMS OF EVIL, IT THEN MEANS YOU LACK WISDOM.
51.     THIS IS BECAUSE THE SCRIPTURE SAID THAT TO KNOW GOD IS TO DEPART FROM EVIL. You cannot say you know God and you are in God and you are associating yourself with evil and abominable things, even things that will jeopardize your future.
52.     Things that will make it impossible for you to attain real success in life. Why do we indulge in destructive lifestyles? It is lack of knowledge and wisdom.
53.     That is why the Bible said, “My people perish because of what?  Lack of knowledge of the Word of God.” [Hosea 4:6] When you err, you err because you know not the truth.
54.     If you know the truth and refuse to live by the truth, you do yourself more harm than good.
55.     Of what use is the knowledge that cannot be put into practice? Who lives a life of regret all the days of his life? It is he or she that knoweth to do good but deliberately refused, for reasons best known to that person? We are here to help you to know the truth.
56.     That is why THE SON OF MAN has come to help you to know the truth. Nicodemus a Pharisee of all Pharisees came to Jesus by night and said, “Master, we all know you came from God to help us to know the truth.
57.     ” Not ordinary truth, but the truth that has power to transform all human lives positively, if only they will say amen to it, and if only they will believe.
58.     And this is one of the reasons we have gathered to re-examine ourselves to see whether the truth that has been evidently set out before our eyes and we said we have accepted, whether it is reflecting in our daily lives or we are merely paying lips service to it.
59.      Of course, if it is reflecting, there would not be any need for the meeting. It is because your characters are not commensurate with the level of truth that has been given to you so far.
60.     Too many horrible reports are following a good number of you. A community is good if at least half of the community, half of the individuals are doing good. But if the majority are found in evil, that community is a corrupt community; an evil community.
61.     Why is it that the youth are no longer mindful of their calling in Christ? While some are not desiring to have anything to do with God, but they take delight in going to church, following their parents, but considering their lifestyle and the teachings they have received, they are all patterning themselves after the dictates of the world which is under the control and administration of the evil one?
62.      Where there is no evil one, there can never be any mention of evil. I do not believe that you are children of the Most High God to go the ways of the devil. No!
63.     You are children of the Most High God to showcase the qualities and attributes of your God, who is your Father, your Creator and from whose loins you came out to this world. So, iron sharpeneth iron. [Proverbs 27:17]
64.     I want to look at this Message, PRESERVE YOUR YOUTH AND ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS. Remain where you are. I know most of you have your copies, but I am going to read from where you least expected.
65.     I am reading Section three. That is Section three, chapter one. Pay attention. THE YOUTH STAGE OR THE YOUTH STAGE OF LIFE.
66.     And here, we have decided on our own for ease and convenience of the Meeting because it is useless to allow infants to be in a gathering like this.
67.     By infants, I mean those that cannot take good care of themselves and those that cannot go about with us freely.
68.     Can you imagine a situation where a mother will be volunteering to come all the way from Lagos to help the child to be here? It then means, that child is a minor.
69.     We do not want any minor. We want, at least, those that are accountable. If you are not accountable to anybody, at least, you are accountable to yourself.
70.     You are responsible for all your actions. True or false? Is there anybody who cannot own responsibility for all his actions? Is there anybody here who is not mature enough to answer for what he or done has done? That is why nobody’s name was mentioned.
71.      We are not looking at your height or size. All fingers are not equal, but we are mindful of the age bracket. Now, you are adults so to say, because you can own responsibility to yourself for all the actions, utterances, characters you are manifesting.
72.     Necessity is now laid on your parents to guide you rightly. Otherwise, you may make costly mistakes due to youthful exuberance.
73.     So let me remind you of this truth enshrined in that Message PRESERVE YOUR YOUTH AND ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS. Section three; chapter one. YOUTHFUL STAGE.
74.     You know, the youth stage is the most wicked stage. Take note! This was documented on the 1st day of September, 2006.
75.     And it is full of too many imperatives and these imperatives have come. Besides, too many things are found in the behaviours of the youths, especially in high places such as this generation where everybody is over ambitious. You will notice that nobody is patient with anything. True or false?
76.     The youths are known to be very very ambitious. Why? Why are they over-ambitious in everything? These are the questions you must answer, for your parents are demanding answers.
77.     I cannot give you a question and supply the answer. You want to catch the wind, please give us reasons. You want to be something we are not stopping you.
78.      It is your right to desire to be something, but these questions are pertinent. What do you want to be and why do you want to be that thing? If they are not properly answered, your parents may not guide you properly.
79.     You will notice that nobody is patient with anything, not even patient with their fellow human beings…  At all. ...neither are they patient with the affairs of this world.
80.     Everybody is trying to catch the wind, when the wind can never be caught. I am very grateful to Almighty God. The most destructive period in life is the youthful stage. True or false? This is the most destructive period in the history of every human being because at this youthful stage, if they are not properly guided, they will become self-destructive.
81.     They will destroy themselves with their own hands while trying to meet up with the desires of their heart. Do not ever lose sight of the fact that man’s wants are insatiable.
82.     There is no way human wants can be satisfied. Every human being represents Oliver Twist. The more he gets, the more he will be desiring.
83.     That is why whatever is your affection, watch over it whether it is good or bad. Watch over your affections to know that which you have given your life over to accomplish, because it gives you joy.
84.     Pause a little. To what extent will you go on with it before you can quit that character? It may give you joy today, but look into the future because whatever we are doing, whatever we are expecting must have future consequences. True or false?
85.     That is why a wise fellow not only considers today, he considers the future. He sees the end of everything he wants to do before he can indulge in them.
86.     A robber must see the end. He must not only see the pleasure, he must see the premature death. He must see the likely imprisonment. He must see even lynching on the street by people that are provoked.
87.     He must see all of them. But if his eyes are focused on the pleasure of that present loot, I bet you, while he is enjoying the loot, he will be handcuffed. Amen.
88.     I know we must all die, but we must not rush into our premature graves. We must not send ourselves into early graves.
89.     Do we have people out there who are sending themselves into their early graves? Good. Tell me whether any man has achieved his ambitions in life in the grave. Has the grave profited anybody anything? Thank God.
90.     The most destructive period in life is the youthful stage: very unpredictable and fearful. What? Very unpredictable and fearful. I thank God you are not among youth that are embarrassing the society.
91.     How are we sure that we do not have them now? By 2006, if we had, they were in the minority. But today, whoever that is embarrassing his parents is he not indirectly embarrassing the society? Charity they say begins at home.
92.     If you can embarrass your parents, how are they sure that you are not living a worse life out there, when they are no longer around you.
93.     That is why if you know God and you believe in the Scriptures, you will not err until you are ignorant of the knowledge of the Scriptures which is able to establish you in wisdom, knowledge and understanding.
94.      And this is what God is saying to all of us. As children of God, we should make sure; we should be careful that our daily life does not embarrass God.
95.     I mean, the first God we can behold every morning, every hour remains our parents.
96.     If our daily life is embarrassing our parents, is there any guarantee that our daily life will not embarrass people we come in contact with in our schools and colleges, in our business sites and on the street? Among you here [both male and female] your daily life is embarrassing your parents.
97.     What they see in you are completely different from what they bargained for. What you are manifesting runs contrary to their aim of sending you to schools, colleges and higher institutions.
98.       It is like you are going there to perfect in evil, to perfect in subtlety and all forms of craftiness. What do you think is responsible for it? WRONG INFLUENCE. PEER GROUP INFLUENCE.
99.      The Bible says, “My people mingle themselves with the heathens, they learn their wicked ways very readily and have become good-for-nothing like half baked bread. [Hosea 7:8]
100.  Do not tell Me you know yourself, for there is no way you can befriend a leper and avoid his handshake. You must contact leprosy through the handshake you offer to your leprous friend.
101.  That is why evil association spoils good character. [1 Corinthians 15:33] Tell Me the person you mingle with and I will give you a name.
102.  Listen to Me. The Scripture said that evil is pleasure to anyone that is destitute of truth and lacks wisdom. [1 Timothy 6:5]
103.  You see the reason why it has become expedient for us to come here today as youth, 100% youth except few of us who are privileged to be selected by the Almighty God, for reasons best known to Him.
104.  We might not be the best among the father and mothers, but I believe there must be something in us which we can deliver to all of us, using our wealth of experiences.
105.  THE PROBLEM IS NOT KNOWING THE TRUTH. THE PROBLEM IS YOUR INABILITY TO PRACTICE THE TRUTH. OF WHAT USE IS THE KNOWLEDGE OF THE TRUTH IF THE BENEFIT CANNOT BE REALIZED WHILE PRACTICING IT? For there is no way you can enjoy the benefit of the knowledge of God until you have put it into practice.
106.  Acquiring truth you cannot practice means acquiring condemnation to yourself, because by and by, that truth must live to testify against you.
107.  The most destructive period in life is the youthful stage: very unpredictable and fearful. I thank God you are not among youths that are embarrassing the society.
108.  Why is it unpredictable? If we have youths in this Bridal Faith and in our families who we cannot attest to their characters, shall we go about rejoicing
109.  Is it not a sign of defeat that THE SON OF MAN has children that are regarded as youths but He cannot stand in for them? He cannot attest to their character. Is it not a sign of defeat?
110.  So if your life is unpredictable, do not rejoice. In other words, your parents do not know what you can do or what you cannot do.
111.  Anything can influence you anywhere, anytime. If you see cultist, you join. You see drunks, you join. The reigning fashion today is no longer going naked.
112.  It is leaving your hair or barbing your hair in different forms and leaving your beards until you look like a chimpanzee, because you want to look fearful.
113.   And you do not know that what depicts personality begins with your outlook. What type of a picture are you presenting to the world about your personality? It goes down to your parents and your family.
114.  It goes down to that particular Ministry or Church where you are being raised. It is unfortunate that those we call children born in this Faith, brought up in this Faith are living wilder lives than those outside.
115.  What could be responsible for that? You were conceived, delivered in this Faith, brought up in this Faith and you are living a wilder life than worldly people out there.
116.  If your life is unpredictable, let Me say it, you are a criminal suspect. Wherever you are found, male or female, you are a suspect. Wherever you are and something gets missing, all eyes will be on you.
117.  When it comes to searching, everybody will demand that you be searched first, just like the one being talked about in New-Market road. She was in a keke [tricycle] and an android handset went missing.
118.  And they said everybody should be searched, but she refused. It happened that she had put the android handset inside her tight; inside her pant.
119.  She resisted. One boy said, “This one will not happen here.” The number was called, but no one knew how she switched off the phone.
120.  A lady rose and said, “This cannot happen, for whatever she [the thief] knows, others equally knows it. She said that everybody should hold her [the thief].
121.  The thief threatened that hell will be let loose if she is stripped naked in public. The lady whose android handset was missing pulled at her inner garment and the android fell out from her pant.
122.  They now pulled off her wig and placed it on the floor and tore all she was wearing into shreds, for the world to come and see a beautiful criminal. I said, a beautiful, not handsome. A beautiful criminal. A graduate criminal. Educated criminal. Scientific criminal.
123.  Why did they suspect her, in spite of her beauty? Something caused it. I was asking the young man, “Why were you suspecting that lady?” He said, “Daddy, even the make-up and the way she was chewing her chewing gum, the way she was flickering her eyes.
124. Even when we were talking about the missing handset, she was the one that called Jesus, and began to talk. We know she was the one.” And the lady whose handset was missing knew she was the one.
125.   Today, information reaching Me is that the ladies have become expert in snatching wigs, weave-ons and so on.
126.  They say it is more expensive than handsets, and that some of them range from one hundred to two hundred thousand or three hundred thousand naira.
127.  So they now enter Keke [tricycle] with two or three boys with a lady in front. Her duty will be to point out any woman they see on the way that is wearing the one they want to collect, and then one of the boys will jump out and out-maneuver the victim.
128.  And straight away, the wig is gone. He puts it inside black polythene bag and they will continue. And it has no name.
129.  Even if you say your own is stolen, there is nothing to identify it. So, by the time they will collect from DMGS to Savoyy, they may collect up to ten. Handset now means nothing.
130.  So you that take delight in wearing expensive ones, get ready. I say, get ready. So very soon, even the young men will now be experts in following all these expensive women about just to take their wigs. And it can be marketed very easily.
131.  It is in hot demand. So take note, all of us. Crime is changing hands every day.
132.  Who is bringing the whole thing? The devil who introducing the useless weave-ons or wigs, the same devil is inspiring his agents to disarm you.
133.  The most destructive period in life is the youthful stage: very unpredictable and fearful. I thank God that you are not among those youths that are embarrassing the society, rather you are peacemakers. I thank God for that.
134.  What if we think you are peacemakers and you turn out to be troublemakers and troubleshooters? It then means we are giving a false report. We are not sincere
135.  Don’t you think that God will query us for recommending evil men to be good people? If I recommend My son to be a good fellow when I know that he is bad, will God spare Me? God will not spare Me.
136.  He will only spare Me if My son is a hypocrite. When he comes back to My house, he will put angelic deposition but whenever he goes out, his true colour will come out.
137.  I will know him as an angel in the house, while the entire world knows him as a devil. If I am recommending him, it will be based on what he does in the house. God will spare Me there.
138.  But if I am a real spiritual man, no matter how he tries to hide it, I must know it, for the Scripture can never be broken.
139.  The Bible said, “Such hypocrisy can never be hidden for too long, for they must surely be exposed.” [Luke 12:1] Circumstances and events around you somewhere, someday must rip it open.
140.  The youth that are disturbing the peace of the nation, you are not numbered among such youths. Note, the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.
141.  The Bible encourages us to worship God in our youths, knowing that a day is coming when we shall become very old, our legs will be shaking, there will not be enough strength for our legs to carry our weight.
142.   That time we will desire to worship God at the approved place but our legs will no longer carry us to that place.
143.  Our bones will be shaking, making a hell of noise because by that time we will be nearing our graves.
144.  In other words, at old age, we are being sustained or will be sustained by what we gathered in our youth.
145.  Does it agreed with the comment of the coordinator which said that wherever you are standing in your youth automatically determines where you will sit down in your old age? For that reason, if you are wise you must labour today and enjoy tomorrow.
146.  But looking at the way you are behaving, you want to enjoy today and suffer tomorrow, for you can never eat your cake and have it again.
147.  A youth that is desiring pleasure when he has not become anything at all; He is still a learner, an apprentice, a student; no matter the level, whether you are pursuing your masters or Ph.D, you are still a student.
148.  A good number of you are also jobless. Some are seeking admission into the higher institutions and at the same time desiring to live exotic lives.
149.   If you are living exotic lives or an expensive live as an apprentice, when you become a master what will you do? If while as a student, you are competing with workmen both in fashion and in every aspect of life, what will happen to you when you come out tomorrow?
150.  Let Me put it this way. We know the truth in Nigeria. At least, in the government sector, whether federal or state, your first degree will give you level 08 step 2. Grade level 08 step 2.
151. Federal government will give you N43,820.00 State government will give N38,200.00. Now, whether you like it or not, that is your salary. That is your take home pay. Whether it will take you home comfortably or not, is immaterial.
152.   What if when you are a student, you inculcated a habit of spending about N50,000 every month, because you are duping your parents, and hoping that by the time you graduate, you will be paid one million naira.
153. Then, when you come out with your degree and then you are paid your first salary, you will hate education. I say, you hate education. AND YOU DO NOT KNOW THAT EDUCATION WILL PROPER YOU WITH THE PRINCIPLE OF ONE STEP AT A TIME. ONE STEP AT A TIME. LITTLE BY LITTLE, SAYS A THOUGHTFUL BOY.
154.  MOMENT BY MOMENT, I WILL EMPLOY, LEARNING A LITTLE EVERY DAY AND NOT SPENDING ALL MY TIME PLAYING, PERHAPS THE FUTURE WILL BE BETTER FOR ME.
155.  Then, you will be looking for opportunity where they do not exist. Where will it lead you to? It will lead you to yahoo. Cybercrime! Some of you want to stay in the school and be riding Porsche vehicles.
156.  Some will be using criminals as example. We are in the same department. He owns three buildings. He owns twenty cars. He runs fleets of taxis in our campus. Yes! By what means? I say, by what means?
157.  In my street where I am living now, there was one at the age of twenty-one who did it and was parading himself and his colleagues with assorted vehicles and women.
158.  At twenty-one. He is from Enugu-Ukwu here. Brethren where is he? Those living with Me, where he is today? [One answered, “He is dead sir.”] Did anybody gun him down? His iniquity killed him.
159.  Have you been seeing his friends again? Both the girlfriends and the boyfriends ran away. Those that pushed him into crime, pushed him into premature grave.
160.  A good number of you are duping your parent using false methods to collect reasonable sums of money from them while you are in the schools and colleges, not to make use of them for your studies but to sponsor your girlfriends.
161.  Your parents are selling everything they have to sponsor you and you are sponsoring your girlfriends. The demands of your girlfriend will lead you into all vices. Am I making sense?
162.  In order to meet the demands of your girlfriend, many have decided to indulge in stealing. I am telling you the truth.
163.  A good number of them that are indulging in cybercrime, in yahoo business, they are being lured into it by their girlfriends, when you are a student and your fellow student girl is presenting request upon request which you do not have the capacity to meet.
164.  This weave-on is outdated. There is one I need. It goes for N5000. The other one, in short that attachment is not good, please help me. I priced it, and it is N65,000. This is because money is now spent in thousands.
165.  Money is collected in hundreds and spent in thousands. Then you will come and tell your parent that you failed twenty courses at a time and that the lecturer said you will never graduate till eternity.
166.  Something must be done! Then items you need for your practicals will be costlier than tuition. Those that are helping you in the practicals will be collecting more than your tuition.
167.  And parents that are desirous of their children passing out with better degree will enter into borrowing, not knowing that they are satisfying the demands of your girlfriends who will laugh at you in the end.
168.  When money no dey, woman will run away. As for that boy living in my street, where are those girls? Flashy girls. I mean, every weekend, they used to cause road block. The road block is no longer there.
169.  We are no longer afraid of crossing that side because of ladies that normally came half naked, because a fool does not know that he is wasting his life by inculcating a wrong way of life that will be very difficult to break.
170.  IT IS EASIER TO INCULCATE A WRONG HABIT THAN TO BREAK IT. LISTEN TO ME. IT IS EASIER TO LEARN A BAD HABIT THAN TO DROP IT.
171.  IT IS EASIER TO LEARN A BAD THING THAN TO STOP IT. BECAUSE THE MOMENT IT ENTERS INTO YOUR LIFE AND ANCHORS, NO MORE. YOU ARE IN TROUBLE.
172.  You can learn an evil way of life in less than one week. You perfect in it.  But it may take you ten years to drop. Learning how to smoke starts by pass me the jut.
173.  If during your youth, you abandoned God and everything pertaining to God, only to wait for the old age to come so that you began to plan how to worship God, no! You cannot have the desire to begin to worship God because it is very painful.
174. There is no way. I have asked this question before, “To get circumcised at the tender age [say within one day and eight days] and to be circumcised as an adult, which one is more painful? Adult.
175.   All of us here are now assumed to be adults. If I say I will circumcise you now, will you summit to it? You may bleed to death and I cannot succeed until I handcuff you both the legs and hands and the whole of Onitsha will gather to hold you on the ground.
176. After circumcising you at this age, you may not walk erect for three months or more, but it is not so if you were circumcised at that infant stage.
177.  That is why we have not lost all of you. We have lost some. Those we have lost already, we are trying to regulate.
178.  Those we have not lost, we are trying to create enmity in their hearts against all forms of evil.
179.  But to those that have given over their lives to evil, truly speaking, anybody telling you that you can change is lying. Rather, we want you to see whether you can use the teachings to do what? Regulate it. Amen.
180.  This is the essence of instilling the truth into your lives so that if you neglect it and then   calamity begins to come, you remember you were once told.
181.  But to those who are coming up, we are highlighting it so that you do not experiment it. It does nobody any good. Never  never.
182.  NO GOOD THING CAN COME FROM EVIL. NO GOOD THING HAS EVER CAME OUT FROM EVIL.  EVERY CONDEMNABLE ACT IN THE SIGHT OF GOD IS EVIL. True or false?
183.  SO IF YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT EVIL IS, EVIL MEANS A CONDEMNABLE ACT IN THE SIGHT OF GOD, FOR NOTHING IS GOOD UNTIL GOD APPROVES OF IT. AND NOTHING IS BAD UNTIL GOD CONDEMNS IT. AMEN.
184.  REMEMBER, EVERY EVIL COMES BACK TO THE INDIVIDUAL IN ONE WAY OR THE ORDER, FOR THAT IS THE LAW OF RETRIBUTIVE JUSTICE.
185.  YOU MUST REAP WHATEVER YOU ARE SOWING. YOU CANNOT ESCAPE IT. SO, THAT IS WHY YOU SOW TO YOURSELF IN RIGHTEOUSNESS SO THAT YOU MAY REAP IN MERCY. [Hosea 10:12]
186.  GOD IS SEARCHING OUR HEARTS, INTENDING TO SEE ONE OR TWO, MAN OR WOMAN WITH UPRIGHT HEART, WITH INTEGRITY AND WITH A REPUTATION TO PROTECT.IF YOU ARE COMMITTED TO HAVING A GOOD REPUTATION, YOU MUST HAVE IT.
187.   BUT WHERE YOU ARE COMMITTED TO LIVING A LOOSE LIFE, THE ALMIGHTY WILL ONLY TELL YOU THE IMPLICATIONS, BUT HE WILL NEVER  NEVER PULL YOU BACK ON SOMETHING YOU HAVE MADE UP YOUR MIND TO BE DOING.
188.  GOD CAN DELIVER YOU FROM EVERYTHING, BUT NOT ON THAT THING YOU ARE TAKING PLEASURE IN DOING. AND YOU CANNOT STOP THE EVIL YOU HAVE NOT HATED IN YOUR HEART.
189.  ANY EVIL YOU HAVE NEVER RESENTED IN YOUR HEART CAN NEVER BE AVOIDED.
190.  You see why, out of your heart cometh the issues of life and death. [Proverbs 4:23] So watch over your affections. As it is recorded in the book of James 1:20 – 21. WATCH YOUR AFFECTIONS.
191.  Remember, it is only in returning and waiting shall we be saved.  Thank you. If peradventure you have wandered away, return.
192.  If peradventure you have wandered away from the path way of right, path way of truth, do what?  Return. Where do you wait? In the Word of God.
193.  That is our resting place. It is only in returning, make a U-turn immediately and in waiting shall we be saved, especially now we are at the close of the hour.
194.   Who does not know that we are living at the closing hours of this age and of the Ministry? Tell Me whatever the prophet foretold would mark the end of this Ministry which is not with us. Everything is with us. We are here waiting for time. No more. No less.
195.  So peradventure you had already wandered away, the prosperity of the wicked had already attracted your attention, the glamour of iniquity has already seduced your heart away because iniquity is something you know you should not try, but you hardened your heart to do it anyhow.
196.  Sin is pleasure to anybody that does not have the spirit of Christ. He does not have the spirit of truth. He does not belong to God.
197.  So peradventure the pleasure of sin, the pleasure of evil has taken you away from where you ought to stay, like I posted it to all of you when your former youth Pastor Chinemezu gave himself over to wrong passions.
198.  He gave himself over to wrong passions, wrong affections. What happened? The other one at Umukaonne [Chinedu] gave himself over to wrong passions, for which course their Local Assemblies were closed down.
199.   Chinemezu did not learn from him. He committed the crime and pastored Aba to a close down.
200.  Young men! Is it a good report that you allowed the light which was glowing brightly and which was handed over to you to be extinguished? Is it a good report that an Assembly of believers that were together was handed over to you and you scattered all of them. During your reign, they got scattered and the gate closed. Is it a good report?
201.  We will remain quoting it until we go into Paradise. Examples of youth who were in charge of God’s family in their location, who left their former estate, because of the glamour of iniquity and gave themselves over to wrong affections and then it landed them into disgrace; landed them to where they will be accountable for the souls they destroyed.
202.  All those souls who cannot pay transport fare to other places to worship, simply because their Pastor caused the closure of their assemblies, do you not think that God will require their blood from those Pastors?
203.  That is why, if you go to the Bible, it said, “Woe unto pastors that have not fed my sheep with the right food, but instead scattered them. Woe unto those Pastors. It is in the book of Jeremiah.
204.  You will see it there. (Jeremiah 23:1-2)You are answerable to God over that your wrong affections. You gave yourself over to wrong passions, look at what it led to. The demise of your ministry. A great fall.
205.  That is why St. Paul was enjoining Timothy and Titus to be mindful of their calling in Christ, knowing that at the end, they must give account of their stewardship. You must!
206.  If you are a young man, strive earnestly to make your calling and election stand sure by striving to make full prove of your Ministry. [2 Peter 1:10] You have a Ministry, but many of you are striving to make shipwreck.
207.  That is why a communique is needed at the end of this seminar. We will know your individual resolve. We will also know your collective resolve.
208.  We can hold things by which we will use to watch you even in our homes, for many of you are turning dastardly rebellious, rebellious to parental advice, and rebellious to parental instructions.
209.  If it is possible, you can fight your mother now. You can fight your father. You angrily demonstrate against them even to their faces. It means nothing to resist their words.
210.  Because you have come of age, you want to have your way.  Yet, you cannot take good care of yourself. Common sickness, you cannot take care.
211.  What if you run into danger tomorrow? Where will you run to? If you have started manifesting these signs before your parents now, what do you think your future holds? Do you think you will attain the age of your parents without entering the mortuary?
212.  Do you think tomorrow will not be disastrous to you irrespective of your skill acquisitions and your certificate acquisition, for all these things means nothing without good morals?
213.  Why is it that we have this innumerable ladies and young men, all clamouring to be one thing or the other, but when it comes to looking for a wife or a husband, we get confused? Do we believe we are children of God at all? Sometimes, you begin to recommend from outside.
214.  Sometimes, you begin to say that those that are bred outside are better than those that are hearing the Word. If the heathen performs better than you, of what use is your inclusion in the Faith?
215.  What does the Faith profit you if the character of a heathen is better preferred to your own character? A good number of heathens are not giving their parents headache at all.
216.  We have a good number of them. We know many. An Igbo adage says that the legs that are swift to evil are equally seen by the eyes that are swift.
217.  Among you are what I call flying stars. I say, flying stars, both males and females. Parents can never predict where they may be found at any given time.
218.  When they tell you that they are at Owerri, they are at Nsugbe. If they say they are at Nsugbe, they are there in Makurdi. They can tour the whole Nigeria in 48 hours provided they will have FUN. Fun! Fun! F-U-N.
219.  A new language with variegated meanings attached to it. I want to have fun. I will to go to a place where I will have fun. I want to have fun. It is just like the word “BUSINESS.”
220.  These phrases are deceitful phrases, for business has no definition. I say, “Business” has no definition. So, whatever definition an individual gives to business, becomes operational in him. So, FUN is the individual’s interpretation of the word FUN.
221.  Am I making sense? Good! That which we call fun may be death to Me. Did you get the Message? To you, it is fun. To Me it is death. Now, let us go to the general stand.
222.  If it is fun, what did God say concerning it? Did God call it fun. IT TAKES A FOOL TO LABEL SIN, FUN. Simply because it is a general term being used by people that do not know God, then you learnt it from them and all evil centres become centres for fun.
223.  Let us hang out. Take me out. Take me in. Am I making sense? Does it exist? A fool may think that Daddy is telling stories. I am not telling stories. I am trying to practicalize everything so that you know what it is all about.
224.  Why do we have difficulties selecting life partners from among ourselves? Two things are responsible. LACK OF MENTAL AND SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT.
225.  When you are not developing mentally and spiritually, it affects your domestic lifestyle.
226.  You may be growing in age, growing in stature, growing in the knowledge of academics and everything in the world, but domestically, you are zero.
227.  You do not have anything to write home about. The only thing you know is to beautify yourself, manicure and pedicure, painting the mouth and the head, but to enter the kitchen or keep the house clean or even dress the bed upon which you slept, no way.
228.  But all you have is lazy habits. Every morning, you stretch your two legs, fix your finger nails and toe nails, paint the lips and then buy brush, buy paint like a painter and be painting your face as if you are painting a wall.
229.  What are you presenting? Nollywood actress. Period! And who are you expecting? A Nollywood actor, for Biri-biri Brother must go for Biri-biri Sister.
230.  How long will it last? As long as Nollywood marriage lasts. It lasts only on the screen. It will be subsisting until another script is written. Once another script is written, one of the actors must part. Yes! Bear with Me. What am I treating?
231.  THE YOUTHFUL STAGE. But at the same time, it is the MOST PROGRESSIVE STAGE.
232. I call it the THINKING STAGE. Although it is A RESTIVE STAGE, it is also A THINKING STAGE, because the young must surely grow.
233.  What must I do to be a man? What must I do so that I do not become a disappointment to myself, my family and to the society? I have too many intractable challenges before me. Look at the nature of my family. Look at my parents. Look at my siblings.
234. I do not want to be a burden to my parents for too long. Let me unburden them of certain things.
235.  For you to unburden them, you must lay hands on something meaningful.
236.  BUT UNFORTUNATELY, A GOOD NUMBER OF YOU THINK OF PLEASURES MORE THAN THINKING OF VALUE.
237.   WHAT WILL I DO TO ADD VALUE TO MY FAMILY, TO MYSELF AND TO THE SOCIETY? THAT WHICH YOU ARE TAKING DELIGHT IN DOING, TELL ME THE VALUE IT IS ADDING TO YOU, TO YOUR PARENTS AND TO THE SOCIETY.
238.  IF IT IS NOT ADDING VALUE, IT IS DEVALUING YOU, DEVALUING YOUR FAMILY AND DEVALUING THE SOCIETY. RIGHTEOUSNESS EXALTS AN INDIVIDUAL, BUT SIN DEVALUES AN INDIVIDUAL. TRUE OR FALSE? RIGHTEOUSNESS EXALTS A NATION, BUT SIN IS A REPROACH. [Proverbs 14:34]
239.  A MAN THAT IS DEVALUED AS A RESULT OF WRONG CHARACTER IS A DISGRACE TO THE FAMILY.
240. AT A VERY OLD AGE, PARENTS WILL STILL BE REMINDING HIM OF HIS CIVIC RESPONSIBILITIES. WHY IS IT SO? HE LOST HIS VALUE. A LITTLE WHILE, HE BECOMES A LAUGHING STOCK TO EVERYBODY THAT COMES HIS WAY.
241.  But a youth that is industrious and visionary is an asset to himself, to his family and to the society. Why? The opposite is a liability. That is why I tell My children everyday that an evil doer is a liability, [1] to himself, [2] to his family and [3] to the society. When you become an asset, you are an asset first to yourself. When you succeed in life, who will first of all enjoy the success? Is it you or I. YOU! Not your parents.
242. So, do not be a burden to yourselves by constituting self-obstacles to your progress. This is because one that wants to go the evil way is constituting his own self obstacle.
243.   Sooner than you think, everybody will hate you with perfect hatred. Nobody will be willing to assist you anymore and wherever you find yourself, the evil that drove you away from Onitsha will also expose you at Enugu.
244.  What am I saying? An evil fellow is an evil fellow wherever he is found. So do not think that if you go to Lagos, you have escaped. You are running to Lagos with your character.
245.  Anywhere you run to, you are going there with your character. That is why, to marry you becomes very difficult.
246.  To you, being a young man, for virtuous ladies to accept your hand in marriage will be absolutely difficult for they have known you.
247.  Another area I want to touch is “Use and Throwaway.” That is “Take-away.” Do not be a “Take-away” or “Use and Throwaway.” That means, you are a disposable plate, a disposable syringe or a disposable cup.
248.  BUT TODAY, WE ARE LOOKING FOR INDISPOSABLE MATERIALS. MATERIALS THAT WILL STAND THE TEST OF TIME. EVEN IF THEY BECOME DIRTY, WE CAN WASH THEM OFF AND THEY WILL LOOK NEAT AGAIN. BUT IT IS NOT SO WITH A DISPOSABLE MATERIAL.
249.   Men are no longer looking for disposable ladies. Virtuous ladies are no longer looking for disposable men, “Use and Throwaway.” You use today, you find fault tomorrow, you dump and you go for another one. Oh no!
250.  WHO WILL ALLOW HERSELF OR HIMSELF TO BE USED AS A DISPOSABLE PLATE? IT IS ONE THAT IS WITHOUT QUALITY.
251.  WHAT DID I SAY? IT IS ONE THAT IS WITHOUT QUALITY. QUALITY! WE ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT QUANTITY. WE ARE TALKING ABOUT QUALITY.
252.   WHO IS WITHOUT QUALITY? ONE THAT IS WITHOUT CHARISMA.  Men know what they are looking for. Whenever they see it, they will stop. No matter what it will cost, they will live with that person forever.
253.  That person automatically becomes his life partner. The days are gone when women used bottom power and make-up or use pregnancy to seduce men into marrying them.
254.    If you allow yourself to be impregnated, go and deliver it. No man will accept it because no man is blamed for impregnating a woman, but a woman is blamed for allowing herself to be impregnated.
255.  You better know this truth. If you allow yourself to be impregnated, go and deliver your baby, for marriage was not the consideration and can never be. It was fun.
256.  That is your own interpretation of fun. MARRIAGE IS NOT A FUN. IF YOU ENTER INTO MARRIAGE WITH THE SPIRIT THAT IT IS A FUNNY AFFAIR, YOU WILL MAKE SHIPWRECK. \
257.  YOU WILL NOT EVEN TAKE OFF. MARRIAGE IS A CAREER. TAKE NOTE! I SAY, MARRIAGE IS A CAREER, FOR IT CAN NEVER BE DISPOSED OF.
258.   “Use and Throwaway” Is it a good material? Well, you may not know when men are calling you “Use and Throwaway.”
259.  You may not know when women are calling you “Use and throwaway.” BE CAREFUL. WATCH OVER YOUR AFFECTIONS.
260. Then in the process of “Use and Throwaway”, who suffers the greatest defect? WOMEN!
261.  In the process of “Use and Throwaway”, who suffers the greatest humiliation? WOMEN! Then who should guard against this silly mistake most? WOMEN!
262.  That is why I gave the orders. Let Me see the number of the so called ladies we have and then, the men.  I never knew we could have this great number.
263.  WHY ARE WE HAVING DIFFICULTIES IN SELECTING WIFES? THAT GOES TO SHOW, WE ARE RAISING LADIES, SISTERS AND DAUGHTERS WITHOUT QUALITY, THAT DO NOT MEET THE NEED AND THE DEMANDS OF THE BROTHERS.
264.  CONVERSELY, WE ARE RAISING NEVER-DO-WELLS AMONG THE BROTHERHOOD, WHO ARE NOT WILLING TO IMPROVE.
265.  THEY ARE NOT SHOWING SIGNS OF IMPROVEMENT AND THE SISTERS HAVE WEIGHED YOU AND HAVE COME TO A CONCLUSION THAT MARRYING YOU MEANS DESTROYING THEMSELVES, FOR YOU HAVE NO PROSPECTS AT ALL, AND YOU ARE NOT TRYING TO IMPROVE YOURSELF.
266.  YOU WANT TO USE THEM TO BETTER YOUR LOT. YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A LADY THAT WILL COME AND BECOME A HORSE, WHO WILL BE PULLING THE CART.
267.   THEY ARE NOT READY TO MARRY A MAN WHO WILL EXPOSE THEM TO SUCH HAZARDS, WHERE THEY WILL BECOME BEASTS OF BURDEN, LABOURING AND THE MAN WILL BE SITTING DOWN, EATING AND MAKING A HELL OF NOISE AS THE HUSBANDMAN AND HEAD OF THE FAMILY.
268.  THEY [THE SISTERS] ARE TIRED OF HEARING THAT NONSENSE, “THE MAN IS THE HEAD.”  YOU CANNOT BECOME A RESOURCEFUL MAN THROUGH BOASTING. YOU DO NOT BOAST YOURSELF INTO HEADSHIP.
269.  THEY WANT REAL HUSBANDS AND NOT PASSIVE HUSBANDS.
270.  THEY WANT ACTIVE HUSBANDS AND NOT INACTIVE HUSBANDS. ACTIVE HUSBANDS THAT CAN TAKE GOOD CARE OF THEM, GIVE THEM PROTECTION, BOTH SOCIALLY, SPIRITUALLY AND OTHERWISE.
271.  THESE ARE THE REASONS WHY GETTING ONE IS BECOMING DIFFICULT AMONG YOU.
272.  If you are of a low quality, and the women are improving more than you, definitely when it comes to marriage, you must go out and look for people that are of low quality with you.
273.  Yes now! This is because animals of the same specie must flock together.
274.   So, what you are looking for is not found among us. We do not have it.
275.  All these imbalances must be addressed in your plenary session. I want to go back to My seat, lest I exhaust everything that is documented or undocumented by other speakers.
276.  IN CONCLUSION, I WISH TO SAY THAT WHATEVER WE ARE DOING TODAY INFLUENCES WHAT WE SHALL BE TOMORROW. THE ERROR WE CORRECT TODAY CAN BE OUR PASS MARK TOMORROW.
277.  THE ERROR WE CORRECT TODAY CAN BE OUR PASS MARK TOMORROW. FOR THAT REASON, GET RID OF EVERYTHING YOU KNOW THAT IS WRONG IN YOUR LIFE.
278.  GET RID OF THEM AND THEN, BEGIN TO LIVE AND ACT AS PEOPLE THAT HAVE RECEIVED THE ENGRAFTED WORD OF GOD [UNADULTERATED] AND WHICH IS ABLE TO CHANGE YOUR LIVES FOR THE BETTER IF ONLY YOU CAN BELIEVE THEM.
279.  YOU MIGHT BE THINKING THAT THE SON OF MAN IS A MAN. YES, I AM A MAN. I AM ALSO GOD.
280.   JESUS WAS A MAN BORN IN KING DAVID’S FAMILY, AND WAS ALSO HIMSELF GOD.WHEN YOU LISTEN TO ME AS GOD, YOUR LIFE WILL BE TRANSFORMED.
281.  WHE YOU LISTEN TO ME AS A MERE MAN [MORESO, WHEN I DID NOT GO TO SCHOOL], TRULY SPEAKING IT PROFITS YOU NOTHING.
On this note, I say, I am wishing you the best of deliberations. Thank you.

LIFESTYLES THAT DWINDLE YOUTHS’ ADVANCEMENT SPIRITUALLY AND OTHERWISE

BY
APOSTLE LUKE UDOCHUKWU OJIAKOR

INTRODUCTION
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lmighty God is very wise and all knowing. He created every human being and knows what every person is made up of.
2.           “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit them together in my mother’s womb.  Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! It is amazing to think about. Your workmanship is marvelous—and how well I know it. You were there while I was being formed in utter seclusion! You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your book!”Psalm 139:13-16 (LB)
3.           He knows what potentials are in the youth. He equally knows that the youths of today are very curious, inquisitive, want to move with the moving time; He knows that the youths of today are very eager to grab everything they can. They are vibrant, lively, energetic; enthusiastic to become personalities to be reckoned with.
4.           The youths of today have very high ideals. These ideals can be sour, perverted or exploited. There is always that youthful exuberance.
5.           The most delicate stage of life is the youthful stage. It is the most destructive stage of life. It is the stage where too many things attract the attention of the youth and most of the things that they delight themselves in are things that would destroy them ignorantly.
6.           It is at this stage that a good number of them desire violence and experiment every kind of rough life. Some of them think that evil is pleasurable while some just indulge in these notorious lifestyles just for the fun of it.
7.           I mean that the youth desire the use of force more than peaceful approach to issues and that is why they are always the brains behind all violent and destructive activities in the society especially in their misguided estate.
8.           The youths love violence more than peace because they are ready to die anywhere at any given time. It is a very dangerous stage of life where they ignorantly experiment with death daily. Nothing disturbs the peace of the society more than unguided (and misguided) youths.
9.           All that are misfits in their families are all victims of misguided folly.
10.       The youths are easily influenced wrongly by their friends. This is so because you cannot be a friend to a leper and avoid his handshake.
Son of Man, Apostle Peter Odoemena. Preserve your Youth and Achieve your Dreams. Revised Edition. Pages 4-7.

11.       Modern youths live in a world that invents evil things. The heart of man is set on doing evil continually and out of the heart come evil thoughts.
12.       “And God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.”Genesis 6:5 (KJV)
13.       “The Lord smelled the pleasing aroma [a soothing, satisfying scent] and the Lord said to Himself, “I will never again curse the ground because of man, for the intent (strong inclination, desire) of man’s heart is wicked from his youth; and I will never again destroy every living thing, as I have done.” Genesis 8:21 (AMP)
14.       “Do you not understand that whatever goes into the mouth passes into the stomach and is eliminated? But whatever [word] comes out of the mouth comes from the heart, and this is what defiles and dishonors the man. 
15.       For out of the heart come evil thoughts and plans, murders, adulteries, sexual immoralities, thefts, false testimonies, slanders (verbal abuse, irreverent speech, blaspheming). 
16.       These are the things which defile and dishonor the man; but eating with [ceremonially] unwashed hands does not defile the man.”” Mathew 15:17-20 (AMP)
17.       With modern sophisticated gadgets like the television, video, mobile phone, internet and computer, the modern youths curiously invent and enjoy evil, hence we now see and hear of evils that were never heard of some decades back.
18.       These gadgets have the potential of conveying thoughts in picture, colour or language motion and this leads to the youths engaging themselves in sinful entertainment and pleasures.
19.       Every youth is involved whether male or female, educated or illiterate, rich or poor, servant or a child born in the family.
20.       The youths, of course, are regarded as the future leaders. It is therefore very important that the youths do not adopt lifestyles that dwindle, truncate, deplete and diminish their advancement spiritually and otherwise and adopt lifestyles that enhance, promote, raise their advancement spiritually and otherwise.
21.       This Forum is for youths in the Bride of Christ Ministry Worldwide and as such, I have to make it clear that we are a peculiar set of youths with the fear of God who has given us His rules of life. We are therefore strangers and pilgrims here on earth. Let us hear the Almighty God, The Son of Man on this matter:
22.       Why is all these of serious concern to the child of God? How should it affect his or her way of life?
23.       First of all, I want you to see yourself as a child of God.
24.       Secondly, as a child of God, you are likened to a city that is seated on a mountain that cannot be hid.
25.       Thirdly, as a cynosure of all eyes because you are a foreigner with a strange  behaviour.
26.       Lastly, that you are surrounded by a large crowd of witnesses with different aims and objectives.
27.       In this world, true children of God are aliens and temporary residents for they are earnestly and desperately looking forward to a permanent abiding place devoid of violence, hardship, sorrow, pain, death etc; and this is the promised “Paradise” of God where God Himself will rule His children the world over in righteousness and peace.
28.        Believe it if you can: there is a hidden purpose why the sovereign God demands worship from all His children scattered all over the world and whoever obeys will not regret it forever.
29.       When genuine disciples of Christ strive to think and act in harmony and in conformity with the teachings of Christ (the Anointed One, the Messiah) unbelievers or renegades or those who make only pretense of practicing His teachings may look down on them as though they are undesirable foreigners.
30.       The views of these counterfeit children of God that are mixed up with you in your congregations or that of the unbelieving world around you, should not make you as a child of God to begin to feel ashamed or doubtful of your conviction with your professed faith in Christ.
31.       Every true child of God as a foreigner will like to do his utmost to conduct himself in a way that does not give anyone valid reason for reproaching God his Father.
32.       While writing to his followers in his own day, Apostle Peter called attention to their honourable standing as aliens and strangers as can be read in I Peter 1:1-2. He described them in this passage as aliens and temporary residents scattered abroad.
33.       You should recall to mind here also that in the Book of Esther, children of God that time were said to be scattered all over the world with traditions and customs different from all other people even the countries where they found themselves.
34.       They were accused of not willing to be influenced by the customs, culture and tradition of communities where they sojourned temporarily and for that they were declared undesirable elements.
35.       No true child of God walks by sight but by divine revelation. Any true child of God that is influenced away from his or her conviction of what he or she knows to be the truth. from God on any matter; be it conduct, order or doctrine, must have walked by sight and no longer by divine revelation!
36.       You cannot desire or imitate the world’s way of talking, dressing, drinking, eating etc, until you are out of the way of truth.
37.       Since we have recognized ourselves as children of the Most High God, as aliens and temporary residents in this fast passing system of things, we can no longer afford to allow ourselves to become unduly attached to anything within the now existing human framework.
38.       No earthly ties, sorrows, joys or possessions are permanent. Time and unforeseen occurrences befall all people and can change one's circumstances steadily and dramatically.
39.       Therefore, for us to be completely absorbed in sorrows and joys that are the products of these ever changing circumstances and relationships, could work against our drawing closer to the Most High God and our Creator and this must be disastrous to us. -Son of Man. (Family Menu Volume 1, Chapter 2 verses 4-6, 9-11, 14-23.)

DEFINITION OF TERMS
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he Merriam Webster English Dictionary defines the Youth as the time of life when someone is young; the time when a young person has not yet become an adult. The youth is a teenage boy or young man/woman. It is the time between childhood and maturity. We can attach age, say from 16 years (for boys) and 14 years (for girls).
2.           The Nigeria’s New Youth Age Classification published on 28th May, 2019 puts the youth at 15 years to 28 years from the previous grading of 18 years to 35 years.
ü    LIFESTYLE:
3.           A particular way of living; the way a person lives or the way a group of people live. Typical way of life of an individual. It is synonymous with culture, habit.

ü    DWINDLE:
4.           To gradually become smaller. To become steadily less; shrink. To make less. It is synonymous with abate; de-escalate; dent; deplete; diminish; downscale; downsize; drop; decrease; ease; knockdown; lessen; lower; reduce.
ü    ADVANCEMENT:
5.           Act of moving forward. The act or result of making something better, more successful. The act of being raised to a higher rank or position. The action of advancing; the state of being advanced.
6.           Promotion or elevation to a higher rank or position. Progression to a higher state if development. It means improvement. It is synonymous with promotion, elevation, ascent, upgrade.



ü    SPIRITUAL:
7.           Relating to a person’s spirit. Relating to, consisting of, or affecting the Spirit. Relating to supernatural beings or phenomena.
8.           It is synonymous with bodiless, ethereal, incorporeal; ethereal-celestial; heavenly; relating to Worshipping of God.
ü    OTHERWISE:
9.         The opposite of spiritual – corporeal, bodily, material, physical, substantial.
10.     The topic can therefore be summarized or put this way: “THE TYPES OF LIFE THAT YOUNG BOYS AND GIRLS IN THE SECONDARY SCHOOLS, COLLEGES AND UNIVERSITIES, AND THOSE THAT ARE LEARNING ONE JOB OR THE OTHER, LIVE WHICH MAKE THEM UNABLE TO SUCCEED IN LIFE, BOTH IN WORSHIPPING GOD AND IN BEING WEALTHY”.
11.     “Where do you purchase those goods? Many of us are blind! There is a reason why we do not preach prosperity in this Faith.
12.     We believe in material prosperity. We also believe in spiritual prosperity. The Holy Ghost praying for the church, He said, ‘I pray that you prosper also in the spirit as you prosper also in the flesh physically’” (The Son of Man: Spiritual Realms Part 1 preached on 16th July, 1995. Page 108 verse 72)
13.     “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health even as thy soul prospereth”
 3 John 2 (KJV).
14.     It is therefore very clear that Almighty God wants His children to do well, prosper, succeed in their life endeavor, life ambition, both in their relationship with God and in what they do to earn a decent living.
15.     Below are a number of lifestyles that truncate the progress of youths both spiritually and materially. The whole thing can be traced to the scriptures:


LIFESTYLES THAT DWINDLE YOUTHS’ ADVANCEMENT SPIRITUALLY AND OTHERWISE
16.     “And God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.” Genesis 6:5 (KJV)
17.     “But God shows his anger from heaven against all sinful, evil men who push away the truth from them. For the truth about God is known to them instinctively; God has put this knowledge in their hearts.  Since earliest times men have seen the earth and sky and all God made, and have known of his existence and great eternal power.
18.     So they will have no excuse when they stand before God at Judgment Day. Yes, they knew about him all right, but they wouldn’t admit it or worship him or even thank him for all his daily care.
19.     And after a while they began to think up silly ideas of what God was like and what he wanted them to do.
20.     The result was that their foolish minds became dark and confused. Claiming themselves to be wise without God, they became utter fools instead.
21.      And then, instead of worshiping the glorious, ever-living God, they took wood and stone and made idols for themselves, carving them to look like mere birds and animals and snakes and puny men. 
22.     So God let them go ahead into every sort of sex sin, and do whatever they wanted to—yes, vile and sinful things with each other’s bodies. Instead of believing what they knew was the truth about God, they deliberately chose to believe lies. So they prayed to the things God made, but wouldn’t obey the blessed God who made these things. 
23.     That is why God let go of them and let them do all these evil things, so that even their women turned against God’s natural plan for them and indulged in sex sin with each other.
24.      And the men, instead of having normal sex relationships with women, burned with lust for each other, men doing shameful things with other men and, as a result, getting paid within their own souls with the penalty they so richly deserved. 
25.     So it was that when they gave God up and would not even acknowledge him, God gave them up to doing everything their evil minds could think of. 
26.     Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness and sin, of greed and hate, envy, murder, fighting, lying, bitterness, and gossip. They were backbiters, haters of God, insolent, proud, braggarts, always thinking of new ways of sinning and continually being disobedient to their parents. 
27.     They tried to misunderstand, broke their promises, and were heartless—without pity. They were fully aware of God’s death penalty for these crimes, yet they went right ahead and did them anyway and encouraged others to do them, too.” Romans 1:18-32 (LB)
28.     “This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.  For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, high-minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
29.     For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.” 2 Timothy 3:1-7 (KJV)
30.     The Son of Man, Apostle Peter Odoemena, in His Message, “Preserve your Youth and Achieve your Dreams (Revised Edition)” outlined all these social vices and lifestyles.
INDECENT DRESSING/PAINTINGS OF ALL SORTS
31.     The ladies parade the streets half naked with their handbags, flickering their eyes sideways, twisting their waists so as to catch the attention of stupid boys and men like them.
32.     They have unbridled desire for men for the sake of money or for fun. These they collect with the attendant problem of sexually transmitted infections of all sorts.
33.     With indecent dressing comes the different paintings on the faces, attachment of artificial eyelashes, paintings of the lips, the toe and finger nails, with fixing if artificial toe and finger nails.
34.     The skirts are short, skimpy and exposing, having openings both in front and at back.
35.     of them wear blouses that expose their backs and the base of the breasts. All are very amorous and erotic.
36.     The boys are not different. They wear shorts and singlets and walk along the streets. They wear jeans trousers that are intentionally torn at different points like the knees, and legs.
37.      They grow their hair to look like that of a mad fellow. When they shave, they shave in such a way that a sensible fellow would start asking if there is any sanity in them again.
38.     The boys even put on earrings while some also put on nose rings. Dressing among youths these days leave much to be desired.
39.     “Follow my advice, my son; always keep it in mind and stick to it. Obey me and live! Guard my words as your most precious possession. Write them down, and also keep them deep within your heart.
40.      Love wisdom like a sweetheart; make her a beloved member of your family. Let her hold you back from affairs with other women—from listening to their flattery.
41.     I was looking out the window of my house one day and saw a simpleminded lad, a young man lacking common sense, walking at twilight down the street to the house of this wayward girl, a prostitute. She approached him, saucy and pert, and dressed seductively. 
42.     She was the brash, coarse type, seen often in the streets and markets, soliciting at every corner for men to be her lovers.
43.     She put her arms around him and kissed him, and with a saucy look she said, “I was just coming to look for you and here you are! Come home with me, and I’ll fix you a wonderful dinner, and after that—well, my bed is spread with lovely, colored sheets of finest linen imported from Egypt, perfumed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. 
44.     Come on, let’s take our fill of love until morning, for my husband is away on a long trip. He has taken a wallet full of money with him and won’t return for several days.”
45.     So she seduced him with her pretty speech, her coaxing and her wheedling, until he yielded to her. He couldn’t resist her flattery. He followed her as an ox going to the butcher or as a stag that is trapped, waiting to be killed with an arrow through its heart.
46.     He was as a bird flying into a snare, not knowing the fate awaiting it there. Listen to me, young men, and not only listen but obey; don’t let your desires get out of hand; don’t let yourself think about her.
47.     Don’t go near her; stay away from where she walks, lest she tempt you and seduce you. For she has been the ruin of multitudes—a vast host of men have been her victims. If you want to find the road to hell, look for her house.” Proverbs 7:1-27 (LB)

PROMISCUITY
48.     This is the evil act of having sexual affair indiscriminately with many people at a very early stage of life or even at any age at all.
49.     It is an indiscriminate sexual act just for the fun of it and not for any other social or biological consideration. It is not for money but just for the fun of it.
50.     Social psychologists refer to promiscuity as an unwarranted exposure of oneself to sexual relationships at tender ages of life.
51.     It is a social malaise very much prevalent among our youths due to:
ü    Poor family upbringing: When parents do not train up their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.
52.     When parents fail to give their children ethical orientation; when they fail to inculcate into their children moral values that must be kept.
ü    Ignorance:  
53.     Many young girls know nothing about themselves. They have no target in future because parents failed to teach them and they themselves decided to be ignorant. Such youths easily fall prey to such social vices.
ü    Lack of moral discipline:
54.     Any youth, or anybody at all, that lacks moral discipline, anybody that cannot control his/her appetite, orgies, will definitely become a victim of promiscuity.
ü    Lack of vision for one’s future:
55.     Anybody indulging in indiscriminate sexual activity has no vision for his or her future. He/she does not foresee himself having his own family. He is living an anyhow life. He is not focused.
ü    Evil association:
56.     When one pairs with somebody that is promiscuous, he/she is bound to learn that hateful lifestyle. This is because of influence and birds of the same feather flock together. You cannot befriend a leper and avoid his handshake.
ü    Lack of fear of God:
57.     God hates this type of lifestyle and has warned that people desist from such. If one has the fear if God, takes the word of God, obeying it, this evil lifestyle cannot catch up with him.
58.     The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.

Exposing oneself to indiscriminate sexual activity is fraught with a lot of disastrous consequences:
ü    Loss of Self-Esteem or Worth:
59.            One that is promiscuous is regarded as a fool or prostitute in the community and nobody regards her. Her chances of getting married are slim.
ü    Contracting Sexually Transmitted Infections. These include gonorrhea; syphilis; cancroid; candidiasis; other venereal diseases and HIV/AIDS.
ü    Pregnancy – The chances of pregnancy are high in a promiscuous girl.
ü    Abortion:
60.       Many take in and abort the pregnancy, most of the time, criminally. This can lead to death of the youth.


Ø    Infertility:
61.       Because of the infection and re-infection, the fallopian tubes may be blocked and this leads to infertility.
Ø    Uterine fibroid:
62.       As a result of the repeated pregnancies and abortions by Dilatation and Curettage (D&C), the uterus is primed at an early age of the youth.
63.       If she stays for few years without being pregnant, fibroid would develop, hence there are many cases of fibroid uterus among the youth these days.
64.       Why should somebody allow all these to happen to her?
65.       The boys are not free. In cases of infection, they themselves contact these sexually transmitted diseases like gonorrhea, syphilis, etc. many a time, these are not properly treated and the young man’s reproductive organs, especially the testes are completely damaged.
66.       The young man can no longer produce viable spermatozoa and so when he marries, he can never impregnate his wife.
67.       Listen to me, my son! I know what I am saying; listen! Watch yourself, lest you be indiscreet and betray some vital information.  
68.       For the lips of a prostitute are as sweet as honey, and smooth flattery is her stock-in-trade. 
69.       But afterwards only a bitter conscience is left to you, sharp as a double-edged sword. She leads you down to death and hell. For she does not know the path to life.
70.       She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t even realize where it leads. Young men, listen to me, and never forget what I’m about to say: Run from her! Don’t go near her house, lest you fall to her temptation and lose your honor, and give the remainder of your life to the cruel and merciless; lest strangers obtain your wealth, and you become a slave of foreigners.
71.        Lest afterwards you groan in anguish and in shame when syphilis[d] consumes your body, and you say, “Oh, if only I had listened! If only I had not demanded my own way! Oh, why wouldn’t I take advice? Why was I so stupid?  For now I must face public disgrace.”” Proverbs 5:1-14 (LB).

PROSTITUTION
72.       This is the act of having sexual relationship for the sake of making money or for other material gains. Prostitution is not restricted to women living in hotels and brothels.
73.       There are many “scientific” prostitutes among the youths especially those in higher institutions among both boys and girls.
74.        Many girls sell their bodies to all kinds of wealthy men to make huge sums of money. Likewise, the boys service elderly women to satisfy the women’s sexual desires in exchange for huge sums of money as well as taking care of their education.
75.       These are the notorious and shameless sugar daddies and sugar mummies. Any youth indulging in such nefarious and obnoxious practice has lost his bearing and can hardly make it in life.
76.       A youth that has the fear of God can never indulge in such evil practices whether boy or girl.
77.       A prostitute is an irresponsible fellow who has no personality or integrity to protect. He/ she lacks shamefacedness and is a laughing stock in the society.
78.        It is embarrassing to see that even married men and women engage in prostitution with even the husband or wife being aware of the act by the spouse.
79.       Cases where the woman tells her husband to allow her make the money from other men with which to take care of him and their children’s education abound!
80.       The children know the man that goes out with their mother! This is both dehumanizing and debasing. The gains of prostitution do not last long.
81.       Prostitution is a curse. Therefore, youths say “NO” to prostitution so you can preserve your future and achieve your life ambition and dreams.
82.        Curb your inordinate desires and advance spiritually and otherwise.

LESBIANISM:
83.       This is a social malady. This is the act of females having sexual relationship with their fellow females.
84.       This is contrary to nature and stems from both moral and mental defect and disorder.
85.       This social vice is very much pronounced among our youths due to western influence that eroded our culture and core values.
86.       Ungodly inhuman practices have been learnt by many ungodly people/ youths through Televisions, seductive periodicals, ungodly conversations with ungodly victims of the deadly act.
87.       This ungodly act is very much pronounced in schools that are all females.
88.       They do all kinds of immoral things, girls touching all the sensitive organs of a fellow girl for arousal and then inserting her finger or sex toy into her private part or that of her fellow girl.

EVIL SIDES OF LESBIANISM
89.       She finds it difficult to marry, not having any desire for a man. If she marries, she cannot be satisfied with one man.
90.       This is because she has been arousing herself, touching the clitoris which assumes erect position at all times. She will end it in prostitution or promiscuity.
91.       She introduces some germs into her private organ. Such microorganisms like fungi, bacteria are introduced and these take their toll on the health of the lesbian.
92.       Lesbianism promotes the development of uterine fibroid. The lesbian keeps satisfying herself without a man and so cannot be pregnant. As she ages, uterine fibroid can form in the womb. This compounds her condition.

SODOMY
93.       This is boys/ men having sexual activities with fellow boys/ men. It is a type of homosexualism.
94.       Sodomy is found more in schools that are exclusively for boys. They practice oral sex and anal sex, men with men.
95.        It has devastating effect on both the psyche of the sodomist and on his spiritual life.
96.        It debases whoever that indulges in it. Such men cannot make good husbands if at all they marry. This is because they are used to satisfying themselves sexually without women.
97.       They may not have need for women. It is another social malady that should be hated by God’s children. Many disease are contracted through this and even death can follow.
98.       It hampers human development both physically and spiritually.



MARITAL ENGAGEMENT
99.        This is very common among our youths – youths that are still in school engaging themselves, promising themselves marriage when no foundation has been laid.
100.      This leads to sexual activities with attendant problems – either pregnancy may result, leading to truncating the academic program of the girl or both;  – rustication from school; – going into the marriage unprepared and anyhow.
101.      This can also lead to committing suicide by either party when the utopian promise is not fulfilled.
102.      Murder can also result. Marriage is a lifelong journey that is not entered unadvisedly, unequipped and prayerlessly.
103.      It is not rushed into and there should be no condition attached. It should not be by sentiments or based on pity.
104.      As a result, youths that are yet pursuing their noble objectives in life should not go into marital engagement but focus on the objectives, lay a solid foundation before talking of marriage.
105.      One goes to school to develop himself to be able to be a man and then do what a man does. Early marriage usually truncates the man’s plans especially when children start coming immediately.
106.     Therefore, marriage is not the desideration. Avoid marital engagement.   You woman, if you give yourself to a man as a means of satisfying his sexual desires in the name of engagement, you are a fool for you are making yourself very cheap and he will useless you.
107.     A virtuous woman does not run around a man. Men of quality who know her worth stake their fortune to convince her why she should consider them fit and proper to accept their hand in marriage.
108.      Therefore, every youth should refrain from marital engagement to enable him/her progress, advance in life.


ABORTION AND ITS AWFUL EFFECTS
A
bortion is defined as the termination of a pregnancy before 28weeks of the pregnancy. Abortion has different types.
 In the context of this discourse, we are limiting ourselves to criminal abortion.
2.           This is the termination of the pregnancy by illegal interference under usually to be free from the challenges posed by the pregnancy because the woman or girl is not married and does not want to face the challenges of the pregnancy while in her father’s house.
3.            It can be procured many ways by taking oral drugs, by inserting some types of drugs into the private part of the woman or through a qualified medical doctor.
4.           Most of the time, these girls patronize medical; quacks and run into serious problems or even die.
5.            Major complications of abortion include:
Ø    Severe hemorrhage
Ø    Sepsis
Ø    Death.

The rest of the awful effects of abortion include:
Ø    Premature death especially when it is carried out by medical quacks or even native doctors
Ø    Damage to the womb and Serious infections like septicemia which is infection of the blood stream leading to death in most cases.
Ø    If the woman survives, there could be blockage of the fallopian tube leading to infertility.
Ø    Any of the cancers can occur.
6.           Abortion is not good and can destroy a person’s future. Many families live in perpetual sorrow and agony because of the wayward life they lived. She cannot bear children again.


PREMARITAL SEX
7.           This is sex before one gets married. It is very common among youths these days due to pornographic films they watch; due to friendship, peer pressure, influence.
8.           These days, virginity, both in male and female, which was a very big virtue, is now treated with ridicule.
9.            Any girl or boy that is a virgin is treated as a primitive man/ woman, jeered at and told all sorts of lies to force him or her to break that virginity.
10.       Premarital sex is a social vice with grave consequences:
Ø    Pregnancy
Ø    Abortion (criminal)
Ø    Shattering of one’s ambition in life
Ø    Unprepared (emergency) marriage with its attendant problems/ challenges.
Ø    Truncating one’s education
Ø    Suicide
Ø    Murder
Ø    Diseases etc.
11.     A boy should not risk it because he does not know the outcome. A girl should not venture in it. There is a great virtue in maintaining one’s virginity until marriage.
12.     A girl that maintains her virginity until she marries is held in high esteem by her husband. The same applies to the man.


 DRUG ABUSE
13.     Drug abuse (substance abuse) is use of a drug in amounts or by methods which are harmful to the individual or others.
14.     According to Dr. Anaya Mandal, MD (http://www.news-medical.net), drug abuse or substance abuse refers to the use of certain chemicals for the purpose of creating pleasurable effects on the brain.
15.     There are over 190 million drug users around the world and the problem has been increasing at alarming rates especially among young adults under the age of 30 (the youth).
16.     The drugs of abuse fall into three groups, viz:
·                    Depressants:
These cause depression of the brain’s faculties and examples include;
·                    Sleeping pills (barbiturates)
·                    Heroin
v    Stimulants:
17.     These cause stimulation of the brain, giving rise to alertness and increased bursts of activity. These include;
Ø    Cocaine
Ø    Amphetamines
18.     These can lead to increased heart rate, dilated pupils, raised blood pressure, nausea or vomiting, agitation, impaired judgment and even psychosis. Many people have run mad because of use of these hard drugs.
v   Hallucinogens:
19.     These cause hallucinations and “out of this world” feeling of dissociation from oneself leading distorted sensory perception, delusion, paranoia and even depression. These drugs include;
Ø    Mescaline
Ø    LSD
20.       The youths not only use these drugs but also push them both at home and beyond the shores of the country to make money.
21.       Indian hemp, Chinese capsule, cocaine, heroin, morphine, pethidine, alcohol, tobacco, marihuana from cannabis, are among the most common ones.
22.       Some of them are taken in powdered form while some are smoked. Others are taken in liquid form. Some are taken through injection into the vein while some are inhaled.
23.       Why do people take these dangerous drugs?
Ø    Curiosity and peer
Ø    Pressure especially among students and young people.
Ø    To get creative inspiration; to be high and look fearful; to “change” and become deadly.
Ø    Chemicals may be used as Part of practices in a cult group for recreational purposes, and fun.
Ø    Drugs prescribed for health purposes to target pain relief may have turned into recreational use and become addictive.
24.     The evil effects of drug abuse are many and include outright madness; many of the young people that are mad are people taking hard drugs.
25.     Those that use needles are at risk of contracting diseases like HIV, Hepatitis b and C infections. The personality is gone and all hopes are shattered.
26.     Those that push these illegal drugs do so in many ways. Some even wrap the drugs in cellophane materials and swallow them only to get to the country they will sell it for huge sums of money.
27.     At times, these people are incarcerated by the law enforcement agents of the country whenever they suspect these dare devil drug pushers and force them to push it out of the body.
28.     At times, the drugs burst open in their bodies and kill them. No sensible youth with the fear of God should experiment with these spoilers.
Ø    THE GSM HANDSET;
Ø    THE COMPUTER;
Ø    FACEBOOK;
Ø    WHATSAPP CHATTING ETC.
29.     These electronic devices and their applications were introduced to bridge communication gap among the people and facilitate quick transfer of information within the service area.
30.     When these gadgets came on board, the All wise God warned us that they should not be found in the hand of fools because fools would use them to spoil themselves and others.
31.     Today, what God warned against is happening. Foolish people especially among the youths have invaded the industry and perverted the use of phones, iPad, notebook etc.
32.      People swindle money from fellow men while great lies are told using the phone. People have been lured away to places of death through the phone while some are kidnapped.
33.     Families have been duped through Facebook; in chatting and video calls. Every kind of evil is now committed through these gadgets.
34.      Foolish students no longer study because they are always with their phones doing one nasty thing or the other. Many do not sleep at nights because they make free night calls and chat all through the night.
35.     Many have rendered themselves useless both in schools and other areas.
36.     Another social vice associated with handset and these electronic gadgets is the youths always plugging their ears with earpieces listening to music always – whether they are walking along the streets, in the room, lying on the bed, even they pretend they are studying.
37.      These are social ills a Godly youth should never indulge in. Another spoiler is gifts of any kind. Behind every gift, there is a motive.
38.     Therefore be careful of the gift you are receiving. Some people hide their evil motive only to destroy or render a progressive youth useless and destroy your career prospects.
39.     If you should receive a gift, it must pass through the confirmation of your parents.
USE OF TELEVISION
40.     This is akin to the GSM. Television has all kinds of programs. There are some good programs quite alright.
41.     However, the devil has gone in there and messed it up with pornographic films which ungodly youths feast their eyes with. They burn with passion.
42.      Any youth that wants to make the best of himself must avoid watching such films that corrupt the mind and increase criminal propensities in them with all malice.
43.     The youths are influenced by what they see, what they hear and what they read from newspapers and periodicals.
44.     They experiment and practice what they read, what they see and what they hear. Therefore develop a perfect hatred against anything that will obstruct your way to success in life.
FRIENDSHIP AND DEATH
45.     A real friend is one that corrects one when he or she goes wrong.
46.     This is God’s own definition of a friend. Friendship does not mean exchange of pleasantries. It does not mean a boy taking a girl to lie with her in the bed.
47.      It does not mean satisfying inordinate desires with a man or woman. These are erroneous beliefs people have as far as friendship is concerned.
48.      For two people to become friends, they must have the same ideologies; they will be likeminded because two cannot walk together except they agree. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Amos 3:3 KJV.
49.     Do you have the same vision with the person? Is the relationship symbiotic? The answer to these questions will determine where this friendship will tilt to.
50.     God says that your enemy will not kill you but your friend. This is a humble and hopeless situation.
51.      A number of people have died because of friendship. Many have died in motor accidents while many perished in the hotels.
52.     It is easiest for your friend to poison you. God says you love him or her and do good to him and her but do not blind your eyes whenever he or she is around. God says, IF IT IS POSSIBLE, MAINTAIN NO FRIEND; NO ENEMY. The best friend you have is yourself.
53.     Hear the voice of Almighty God, the Son of Man, “you have no friend except in Christ; you have no mother, no father, no brother, no sister, no children except in Christ”. In other words, for there to be true friendship, it must be in Christ.
54.      If Christ is not the basis of that friendship, death is very much around the corner.
55.      Therefore pair up with one that believes what you believe, worships the same God you worship.
56.     Remember that your friend who is envious of your success can even plan for your rape and execute it with ease.
57.     Therefore, every intelligent youth should avoid it like wild fire. Pay heed to God’s word, obey it and let nothing dwindle your advancement spiritually and otherwise.


ATTENDANCE TO PARTIES AND DRUNKENNESS
T
he scriptures say that when the people of Israel demanded Aaron to make them a god to lead them in the wilderness instead of the Almighty God in the person of Moses, Aaron made them a molten calf.
2.           The people then offered burnt offerings and peace offerings to that calf idol and went into wild parties with sexual, immorality.
3.           When Aaron saw how happy the people were about it, he built an altar before the calf and announced, “Tomorrow there will be a feast to Jehovah!”
4.           So they were up early the next morning and began offering burnt offerings and peace offerings to the calf – idol; afterwards they sat down to feast and drink at a wild party, followed by sexual immorality. Ex. 32:5-6 LB.
5.           Almighty God, the Son of Man, Apostle Peter Odoemena, made it very clear that nothing exposes the youth to destructive influences more than attendance to ceremonial parties where they exhibit their youthful lusts.
6.           These parties range from wake keep, bachelor’s eve, wedding ceremonies, naming ceremonies, naming ceremonies, birthday ceremonies, school shows, and picnics, night clubs, professional association meetings / ceremonies.
7.           These offer the youth opportunities to free food, free drinks, and free exchange of cigarettes. It is a favorable ground for boys and girls to mis-mate themselves without restraint, acting under the influence of alcohol they drug themselves with.
8.           Any youth that adopts this lifestyle should note the following:
Ø    It influences innocent souls into wrong destructive lifestyles that destroy their future and shatter their ambitions in life.
Ø    It produces drunk and reckless youth who constitute a nuisance to the society.
Ø    It increases evil tendencies in the youth hence it makes them restless.
Ø    Keeping late at night has landed many into many troubles in the hands of enforcement agents, armed robbers and other suspicious places thereby damaging their reputations and that of their families.
9.           Party or ceremonial ground are fertile grounds where enemies lie in wait to poison or destroy their foes ignorantly.
10.       It is not a must that you honour all invitations. A man that does not step into a river can never be drowned in that river.
11.        Be wise, have the fear of God and let the Word of God rule in your hearts. You will be safe and be able to advance spiritually and otherwise without any hindering you.

CULTISM
12.       A secret cult is an organization of some people who engage in some activities that are secret.
13.       Cultism is common among students in the secondary schools and institutions of higher learning.
14.        Some students are lured into cults while some are forced into them. Many of the students in cults come from wealthy, loose families.
15.       They divert their attention to cult activities at the detriment of their academics. Cultists practice a very wide range of vices: wild life, drug addiction, immorality.
16.        They even kill members of opposing cult groups; hence they possess weapons of destruction like machetes, daggers, spears and arrows.
17.       Every wise youth should never dream of cultism if he/ she wants to achieve his/ her life ambition. RUN AWAY FROM EVERY APPEARANCE OF CULTISM!

VIOLENCE/MILITANCY/INSURGENCY
18.       A good number of youths are restive. As a result, they are the people forming insurgent groups like the Boko Haram in the Northern part of Nigeria, the Niger Delta Militant group in the Southern part of Nigeria, the MASSOB/IPOB in the Eastern part of Nigeria.
19.       They form pressure groups. Do not join any of such violent groups.

POLITICAL THUGGERY
20.       This is the delight of many youths. A thug is defined as a violent criminal, a brutal ruffian or an assassin.
21.       A thug is one that is paid to commit suicide. In Nigeria, many youths are hired by politicians for thuggery.
22.       They do all kinds of evil during elections. They snatch ballot boxes, main and kill political opponents.
23.       Every godly youth should not ever think of being one, no matter whatever he/she is promised. Save your life.
ARMED ROBBERY/ VIOLENT STEALING
24.       Violent/ armed robbery is very much prevalent among the youths because they want quick money which they will lavish on women, drinks, smoking and taking of hard drugs.
25.       They want to drive the latest model of vehicles, yet they do not have any viable means of livelihood. They want to show off. A wise youth should not dream of such.

BETTING AND POOLS-STAKING

26.       One may wonder if the youths can involve themselves in betting and pools-staking.
27.       The answer is yes; youths gamble. They want to make quick money. They waste the true and money only to feel frustrated. Do not indulge in such.


HOOLIGANISM:

28.       Hooliganism is defined as rowdy, violent or destructive behaviour. Some youths indulge in hooliganism. They threaten to kill; look fierce. A godly youth should have the mind of Christ which is good, peaceful, lowly and is not boastful.

SOPHISTICATION/ OSTEMTATIOUS LIFESTYLE

29.       Many youths sophisticated life! They live big. Many compare themselves with their peers that are from wealthy families.
30.       How can a boy whose father puts on a pair of shoes of Ten Thousand Naira (#10,000.00) wear a pair of shoes of Forty Thousand Naira (#40,000.00)?
31.        Where did he get the money to buy the shoes? Either he stole or borrowed the money, compounding his problem.
32.       Every youth should live moderately, be contented with what God has given you, wait for Him to bless you even as you engage in honest venture.


PRACTICE OF PORNOGRAPHY
33.       Pornography means movies, pictures, magazines etc. that show or describe naked people or sex in a very open and direct way in order to cause sexual excitement.
34.        It is the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement.
35.       Youths engage in pornography and this inflames their desire for the opposite sex to practice what they see. This is one of the cause of premarital sex, and other immoral acts.
36.       Any youth that gives himself or herself to pornography cannot make it in life. Some of the youths spend the whole night watching these pornographic materials when they should be sleeping or studying. Do not yield to that evil habit.

EXAMINATION MALPRACTICE
37.       Many students have formed the habit of not studying hard. They are lazy, not serious with their studies whiling away their time in parties.
38.       These students, resort to examination malpractice during examinations. The female students give their bodies to lecturers to score them high even when they do not merit it.
39.       Any student that indulges in examination malpractice cannot defend his/ her certificate and so has stalled his advancement.
40.       Run away from examination malpractice. Study hard and God will bless your efforts with resounding success.


LIFESTYLES THAT DWINDLE ADVANCEMENT SPIRITUALLYAND OTHERWISE.
 

T
he fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.”Prov. 9:10(KJV)
2.           And unto man he said, Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom; and to depart from evil is understanding.” Job 28:28(KJV)
3.           “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” Prov. 1:7 (KJV)
4.           Anybody that does not have the fear of Almighty God in his/ her heart is bound to be led by natural evil instincts in him/ her. Such a person is living only carnally doing whatever his/ her corrupt mind suggests. The fear of God leads to obedience to every instruction, every word of God.
5.           “Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.” Psalm 119:11. (KJV)
6.           “I have thought much about your words and stored them in my heart so that they would hold me back from sin.” (LB)

The causes therefore include:
Ø    Lack of fear of God.
Ø    Neglecting God’s instruction/ Disobedience of God’s teachings and instructions.
Ø    Ignorance.
Ø    Lack of Moral Discipline.
Ø    Poor family upstart.
Ø    Lack of self-esteem/ confidence.
Ø    Evil Association.
Ø    Lack of Vision of the future – what do you want to be?

PREVENTION
7.           Having known the lifestyles that dwindle youth’s advancement spiritually and otherwise as well as some of the causes of the obnoxious lifestyles, it will serve as well to highlight some measures we must take to prevent us from slipping into these lifestyles, as enunciated by the Son of Man in the Message, “Pathway to Greatness” preached at the University of Nigeria, Enugu Campus at the 10th Anniversary of Dignity Consult.
8.           The fear of God which will lead to the next measure.
9.           Obedience to the Word of God: Doing everything as Almighty God in our midst, Apostle Peter Odoemena, The Son of Man, has taught us, obeying instruction/ teaching He has given to us.
10.       “To be godly is to be obedient. To be obedient is to be peaceful. To be peaceful is to be successful and that leads to longevity”.– The Son of Man. The Family Menu. Vol. 1, Page 62 Verse 32.
11.       Avoid Living a Purposeless Life: A man must not only exist for a purpose, but should live for a purpose. There is a purpose why you are alive. The value of life is measured by the positive contributions or inputs made by any man to the society he lives in.
12.       Discover and develop your Potentials: Evaluate your capabilities to know what potentials you have. When you discover that, you would begin to spend your time planning and thinking on how to develop these potentials. God stored in you. By so doing, you cannot have any room to indulge in negative in negative lifestyles.
13.       Desire to be great in Life: Whatever you want to achieve in this life starts with a desire. As you pray, plan and pursue greatness in life, let desire ignite a sense of commitment and hard work in you.
14.       Develop Self-Control: Self-control is a must for human development, which is a pre-requisite for attaining greatness in life: What you make of yourself that makes you either great or small. Any youth that lacks self-control is a miniature human being and can never make any advancement whether spiritually or materially.
15.       Be Diligent to protect your Mind set: You must be diligent to protect your Mindset, because everything you will be or achieve in this life depends on the functional ability of your mind and brain in processing of information. Guard your mind that no wrong information such as envy, gossip, slander, jealousy, malice, hatred, indolence, crime, etc ever registers in your system.
16.       Make the right choice of life: The way you choose to live is the way you will live. Make the right choice of everything about you- your life, what you want to be; how you want to worship God.
17.       Decision: Decision is the power behind all great achievers. The remarkable difference between the great and the small is decision. Decision is the power of life. Decide that your lifestyle will never embarrass God.
18.       “We talked to you as a father to his own children—don’t you remember?—pleading with you, encouraging you and even demanding  that your daily lives should not embarrass God but bring joy to him who invited you into his Kingdom to share his glory. 
19.       And we will never stop thanking God for this: that when we preached to you, you didn’t think of the words we spoke as being just our own, but you accepted what we said as the very Word of God—which, of course, it was—and it changed your lives when you believed it.” 1 Thess. 2:11-13 (LB) This will never allow you to stray away.

COMMON INGREDIENTS THAT HELP YOU TO ACHIEVE YOUR TARGET
There are basic necessary elements that help us achieve our target. Apply them.
Ø    Time Consciousness:
20.       As a student, apprentice, trainee, etc, you must be time-conscious. Know how to manage your time. Anybody indulging in any unfruitful venture is wasting his/her precious time.
21.       Use your time to study so you excel in your academics, your trade, etc.
Ø    Vision:
22.       You must have vision for your life. What do you want to be? Where there is no vision, insight and foresight, there will be no goal, purpose or direction. Where there is no goal, nothing will be accomplished.
Ø    Diligence, Dedication, Devotion, Determination and Discipline:
23.       Apply diligence with discipline. Diligence is a partner in progress with self-discipline in attaining greatness in any pursuit in life. You want to be great before God and man, they are needed. Be dedicated, devoted and determined to succeed and you will succeed.
24.       Nothing can push you about because you know what your target is and you are devoted and dedicated to achieving it- success spiritually and otherwise!

EXAMPLES OF YOUTHS THAT AVOIDED LIFESTYLES THAT DWINDLE YOUTHS’ ADVANCEMENT SPIRITUALLY AND OTHERWISE.
25.       Joseph: As a youth, he kept himself and did not succumb to pressure from an evil woman.
26.       “At once the Lord began blessing Potiphar for Joseph’s sake. All his household affairs began to run smoothly, his crops flourished and his flocks multiplied.  
27.       So Potiphar gave Joseph the complete administrative responsibility over everything he owned. He hadn’t a worry in the world with Joseph there, except to decide what he wanted to eat! Joseph, by the way, was a very handsome young man. 
28.       One day at about this time Potiphar’s wife began making eyes at Joseph, and suggested that he come and sleep with her. Joseph refused. “Look,” he told her, “my master trusts me with everything in the entire household; he himself has no more authority here than I have! He has held back nothing from me except you yourself because you are his wife. How can I do such a wicked thing as this? It would be a great sin against God.” But she kept on with her suggestions day after day, even though he refused to listen, and kept out of her way as much as possible. 
29.       Then one day as he was in the house going about his work—as it happened, no one else was around at the time— she came and grabbed him by the sleeve[a] demanding, “Sleep with me.” He tore himself away, but as he did, his jacket slipped off and she was left holding it as he fled from the house.” Gen 39:5-12 (LB)
30.       Daniel: As a youth, Daniel kept himself from things that might defile him.
31.       “And the king spake unto Ashpenaz the master of his eunuchs, that he should bring certain of the children of Israel, and of the king's seed, and of the princes; Children in whom was no blemish, but well favoured, and skilful in all wisdom, and cunning in knowledge, and understanding science, and such as had ability in them to stand in the king's palace, and whom they might teach the learning and the tongue of the Chaldeans.
32.       And the king appointed them a daily provision of the king's meat, and of the wine which he drank: so nourishing them three years, that at the end thereof they might stand before the king. Now among these were of the children of Judah, Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah: Unto whom the prince of the eunuchs gave names: for he gave unto Daniel the name of Belteshazzar; and to Hananiah, of Shadrach; and to Mishael, of Meshach; and to Azariah, of Abednego.
33.        But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king's meat, nor with the wine which he drank: therefore he requested of the prince of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself. 
34.       Now God had brought Daniel into favour and tender love with the prince of the eunuchs. And the prince of the eunuchs said unto Daniel, I fear my lord the king, who hath appointed your meat and your drink: for why should he see your faces worse liking than the children which are of your sort? then shall ye make me endanger my head to the king. Then said Daniel to Melzar, whom the prince of the eunuchs had set over Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah, Prove thy servants, I beseech thee, ten days; and let them give us pulse to eat, and water to drink. 
35.       Then let our countenances be looked upon before thee, and the countenance of the children that eat of the portion of the king's meat: and as thou seest, deal with thy servants. So he consented to them in this matter, and proved them ten days.
36.       And at the end of ten days their countenances appeared fairer and fatter in flesh than all the children which did eat the portion of the king's meat. Thus Melzar took away the portion of their meat, and the wine that they should drink; and gave them pulse.
37.        As for these four children, God gave them knowledge and skill in all learning and wisdom: and Daniel had understanding in all visions and dreams.
38.       Now at the end of the days that the king had said he should bring them in, then the prince of the eunuchs brought them in before Nebuchadnezzar. And the king communed with them; and among them all was found none like Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah: therefore stood they before the king.
39.       And in all matters of wisdom and understanding, that the king enquired of them, he found them ten times better than all the magicians and astrologers that were in all his realm.” Dan 1:3-20 (KJV)
40.       Timothy: He had the faith of Christ as his mother and grandmother taught him. “When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.
41.       Wherefore I put thee in remembrance that thou stir up the gift of God, which is in thee by the putting on of my hands.” 2 Tim 1:5-6 (KJV)
42.       “Hold fast the form of sound words, which thou hast heard of me, in faith and love which is in Christ Jesus. That good thing which was committed unto thee keep by the Holy Ghost which dwelleth in us.” 2 Tim 1:13-14 (KJV)
43.       Titus: Titus upheld the grace of God in his life and taught others that and made sure nobody had any cause to blaspheme God because of his life.
44.        For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works. These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” Titus 2:11-15 (KJV)
45.       The four daughters of Philip the Evangelist: These four girls were taught by their father Philip. They obeyed the sound teachings of their father and the spirit of prophecy rested on them.
46.       “And the next day we that were of Paul's company departed, and came unto Caesarea: and we entered into the house of Philip the evangelist, which was one of the seven; and abode with him. And the same man had four daughters, virgins, which did prophesy.” Acts 21:8-9 (KJV)

CONCLUSION
A
ll has been heard; the end of the matter is: Fear God [revere and worship Him, knowing that He is] and keep His commandments, for this is the whole of man [the full, original purpose of his creation, the object of God’s providence, the root of character, the foundation of all happiness, the adjustment to all inharmonious circumstances and conditions under the sun] and the whole [duty] for every man.
 For God shall bring every work into judgement, with every secret thing, whether it is good or evil.” Eccl 12:13-14 (AMP)
“From the evil of the whisperer (devil who whispers evil in the hearts of men) who withdraws (from his whispering in one’s heart after one remembers Allah). (V114:4) Narrated Abu Hurairah: Allah’s Messenger said, “The (Hell) Fire is surrounded by all kinds of desires and passions, while Paradise is surrounded by all kinds of disliked undesirable things.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari, 8/6487 (O.P.494)]. Inordinate desires and animalistic passions lead to the Fire while self-control, perseverance, chastity and all other virtues, and the obedience to Allah and His Messenger lead to Paradise. What leads to Hell is easy to do while what leads to Paradise is difficult to do.” Surah 114:4.


PREMARITAL SEX AND ITS CONSEQUENCES
BY
SIS. NZUBECHI ODOEMENA

DICTIONARY DEFINITION OF TERMS
§     Pre according to Merriam Webster means prior to, before.
§     Marital according to Merriam Webster dictionary means,
Relating to marriage or the married state.
Of or relating to a husband and role in marriage
§     Sexual intercourse (Sex) according to editors of encyclopedia Britannica is also called coitus or copulation means a reproductive act in which the male reproductive organ (in humans and other higher animals) enters the female reproductive tract.
§    According to MacMillan dictionary, sexual intercourse (sex) is the act of having sex, especially sex between a man and a woman in which the man puts his penis inside the woman’s vagina.
§    Premarital sex according to Wikipedia is sexual activity practiced by people before they are married. The term is usually used to refer to the intercourse before the legal age of a marriage.
§    Premarital sex is an action that can adversely affect a youth’s emotional, social, spiritual and physical being in diverse ways.


INTRODUCTION
T
he youthful age remain the most delicate and destructive stage of life where too many things attract the attention of the youth of which premarital sex is one of the prominent one.
2.             The most delicate stage of life is the youthful stage. It is the most destructive stage of life, it is the stage where too many things attract the attention of the youth and most of the things they delight themselves in are things that would destroy them ignorantly” (Preserve your youths and achieve your dreams revised; pg 4:4)
3.             The existence of premarital sex among youth seems to be rampant today. Society frowns against premarital sex from the very outlook that adolescence is the time to form oneself as intelligent and responsible human being and not at all a time to procreate.
4.             The teen/youthful years are a critical period for learning and development that will lay the foundation for a young person’s future. Opportunities missed then can never be regained. If young people fail to take advantage of these opportunities they may never develop their full potential
5.             In premarital sex, often times, immature human beings explore the sexuality just out of curiosity and might be unaware of the consequences. Sex in itself is not wrong at any age but premarital sex may harm the mental development of youths in several forms.
6.             Premarital sexual experiences may atimes lead to the misconception that sex is to be enjoyed at whatever ways possible but this idea is very destructive.
7.              Sexual behaviors of adolescents and youths are categorized as one of the main health priorities of our society because of high prevalence of human immune deficiency virus/acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (HIV/AIDS), sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancies.
8.             This call for concerns among the children of God less the youths destroys themselves prematurely as a result of youthful exuberance.
9.             It is a known fact that sex is a natural act and we believe it is not sinful but there is every need for it to be regulated.
10.         God made us to understand that our lives must be regulated as children of God and any human being that lives a life without regulation is more or less a beast.
11.         In as much as an individual may have the power to do all things, everything is not convenient for a child of God.
12.         (1 Cor 6: 12 GNB)- Someone will say, “I am allowed to do anything.” Yes; but not everything is good for you. I could say that I am allowed to do anything, but I am not going to let anything make me its slave.  “all things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any”. (KJV)
13.         There must be clear difference between the children of God and worldly children. As children of God, the youth were warned to flee youthful lusts.
14.          (2 Tim 2:22 NLT) – Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts. “Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart”. (KJV)




FACTORS THAT PROMOTE PREMARITAL SEX
PEER PRESSURE: Majority of the youth tend to be easily influenced by what they see their friends do, this has led to more harm than good.
2.           The influence peer group has on our youths can never be overemphasized; it tends to be stronger than parental guidance, training and discipline.
3.           CURIOSITY: The youth always have the mindset to delve into the unknown. They are curious about sex and aim to try out what they see on the internet, They thought they were searching for reality, but they ended up destroying themselves.
4.           They are not satisfied with what their parents told them concerning sex, they want to experience it themselves.
5.           Electronic media: There are three things that influence a human being which are what you see, hear and read. Android phones, Television, film and radio have contributed to the high rate of premarital sex.
6.           What the youth watch on their handsets and screen determine their behavior and character. “Guard the senses for these are the avenues to the soul; avoiding reading and seeing things which will suggest impure thoughts”(Ellen White)
7.           Books and Magazines: Some devilish articles abound in the society which aid in destroying the youth, they are made up of pornographic pictures and sexual stories which stimulate the youth to think about sex always.
8.           Having read all these books, the youth do become restless until they have put into practice what they learned from the book.
9.           GREED: Desire for money in order to live a sophisticated life is another cause of premarital sex.
10.       Some girls want money at all costs hence they are ready to use their bodies to get it by sleeping around with men.
11.       A young girl of 16 years can sleep with a man of her father’s age, just because of money; this has brought so many girls to their premature grave. “Greed is a bottomless pit which exhaust the person in an endless effort to satisfy the need without ever reaching satisfaction”(Eric Fromm)
12.       INDISCIPLINE: Self discipline which produces self control helps one to control his/her feelings, emotions and thoughts. “If we don’t discipline ourselves, the World will do it for us”. (Williams Feather) Lack of discipline has led many youth into the dungeon of premarital sex.
13.       WRONG ASSOCIATION: This has led many youth into destruction. Show me your friend and I will tell you the type of person you are. Moreover, you cannot befriend a leper and avoid his handshake, so you cannot associate with an immoral fellow without being influenced negatively.
14.       IGNORANCE: Lack of good sex education has led many youth into premarital sex; some went into it not knowing what they were doing. Some parents fail to give their children proper sex education at the right age; hence they become vulnerable to premarital sex.


CONSEQUENCES OF PREMARITAL SEX
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EMOTIONAL EFFECT OF PREMARITAL SEX
T
he emotional results of premarital sex can lead to psychological damage. This includes confusion that can cause one to question his/her own self worth. A person may also become depressed and regretful.
2.           According to James C. Dobson, the greatest evil in premarital sex is disappointment. Premarital sex is not something that happens and is quickly forgotten but can be something that haunts a person throughout his/her life time.
3.            Virginity is a gift from God and once it is given away, it can never be returned. The realization of this fact alone can bring emotional damage.
4.           Sex before marriage can also cause social problems. Many times these acts are not kept silent, therefore; reputations are degraded. When the news gets around, the outcome usually consists of others gossiping and judging. This can ruin a person's reputation and cause others to lose respect for that person.
5.           Our reputations are usually very important to us, and premarital sex is only going to result in the injury of that reputation.
6.           Your reputation is in the hands of others. That's what the reputation is. You can't control that. The only thing you can control is your character (Dr. Wayne Dye)”

PROMINENT CONSEQUENCES INCLUDE THE FOLLOWING:
7.           Other prominent disadvantages of premarital sex are those that affect the physical body.
8.           Pregnancy is an unfavorable, physical consequence of sex before marriage. Internet statistics show that ten percent of all fifteen to nineteen year old females become pregnant each year.
9.           Sexually transmitted diseases are another physical effect of premarital sex. Approximately three million cases of STD's are reported among teens every year.
10.       Becoming pregnant before marriage and contacting sexually transmitted diseases are disturbing to the physical well being of a person


TEENAGE PREGNANCY:
11.       This is a common phenomenon in our society at the moment.  It poses its own challenges such as:
12.       Inability to physically cope with pregnancy since biologically, most females are not fully developed hence the possibility of carrying the pregnancy successfully and or birth complications may lead to loss of the mother's or the child's life.
13.       Abortion which are sometimes done in back street under unhygienic conditions leading to loss of life, infections with long term consequences of infertility; and to many who survive, psychological and emotional trauma.
14.       Single/teenage motherhood characterized by loss of opportunities: economic and social deprivations.
15.       Sexually transmitted infections which can leave also a lasting mark like infertility and other health problems on the girl especially if not treated promptly.
16.        Sexually transmitted infections are associated too with prenatal effects on the foetus leading to disabilities and or special needs.
EMERGENCY MARRIAGE:
8.           Premarital sex leads to emergency or accidental marriage, in the sense that it may result to pregnancy. In this condition, the young man in view might be obliged to marry someone whom he does not love or would have intended to marry under normal circumstances.
9.           By this, he is automatically placed in an adult role for which he is unprepared and it also places economic pressure on him and curtails his opportunities for further education or career development.
10.       On the part of the girl in question, she will be forced into marriage and motherhood prematurely with its attendant challenges which she never intended for herself or her future.
11.       “I have always held that early marriage is a sure indication of second- rate goods that had to be sold in a hurry” (Martin Harris)

HIV/AIDS: 
12.       Prevalence of HIV and AIDS is highest among the youth.  As it is, there is no cure yet for it, meaning that the person at a tender age is forced to live with the condition for a period that cannot be predicted because it leads to death.  
13.       Sickness from opportunistic infections may be traumatizing and can lead to opportunity cost in the youth.

DEPRESSION:
14.       The emotional stress of broken sexual relationships also causes depression. The youth tend to invest more in a relationship that seem real at first, and then suffer deeper pain and hurt when the relationship comes to an end.
15.       Oftentimes, this act is hard to be kept secret as the boys tend to brag among their friends thus leading to rumors, the girls reputation is then at stake In some cases drug use and alcohol consumption were said to be the coping strategies or remedies for the depression the individual was passing through, which is never realistic.

DRUG ABUSE:
16.       Drug abuse is very prevalent among the male youth. Various drugs are used by male for enhancing sexual performance which has made some of them become drug addicts.
17.       Major example of this drug is “Tramadol”. In some cases students take drugs after their relationship has broken. To the females, various drugs and contraceptives have been used in controlling pregnancy or removing pregnancy which now has a resultant effect of destruction of the womb and infertility.


VICTIMS TO RITUALIST:
18.       Some girls who engage in pre marital sex become easy targets for ritual activities. Most people who were looking for human parts for ritual purposes give huge amounts of money to greedy and materialistic girls, who possibly end their life mysteriously.
19.       Recently cases abound where young girls were killed in the hotels and their private parts removed for rituals.

CONCLUSION
F
rom all the points discussed in this paper, it is clear that premarital sex does more damage than good to the youth because of its negative effects on such a large part of their lives. It can alter emotional, social, spiritual, and physical lives for life. It may seem right at the time but it obviously does more harm than good.
2.           Believing this to be true, I concur with Gods injunction that you preserve your youth and achieve your dreams.
3.           In the words of Anthony Robbins, “The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you don’t, life controls you”.         
Thank you and Remain blessed!


GODLY YOUTHS
VS.
WORLDLY YOUTHS:
THE SEPARATING LINE

By

DEACON DAVID MBAH


THEME:
CREATING ENMITY IN THE HEARTS OF THE YOUTHS AGAINST ALL FORMS OF EVIL OF OUR DAYS
THE CAMP OF MY PEOPLE MUST BE SEPARATED FROM THE CAMP OF THE UNGODLY




THE OBJECTIVES OF THE BRIDAL YOUTH FORUM 2019
[1] Connecting or Reconnecting to the inspirational Source
[2] Directing or Redirecting our vision
[3] Harnessing our energy, all geared towards productivity



DEFINITION OF CONCEPT
­
YOUTH:

T
he Merriam Webster dictionary described YOUTH as the time of life when one is young: especially the period between childhood and maturity.
2.           The United Nation’s definition of YOUTH is a period of transition from the dependence of childhood to adulthood independence.
3.           According to the UNESCO youth programme “Youth Power”, Youth have the creativity, the potential and capacity to make change happen – for themselves, for their communities, and for the rest of the world.
4.           THE SON OF MAN, Apostle Peter Odoemena on Sunday 21st of July 2019 in the Message THE LAST MINUTE REVOLUTION IS IN YOUR HANDS, YOUTH [VOLUME 2] was quoted thus: That is why when God was talking to us, He said that once you are in between one year and eighty years, you are still a young minister, a youth. You are not yet old.

GODLY:
5.           The words that are closest in meaning to godly include: PIOUS, DEVOUT, REVERENT, FAITHFUL, DEVOTED, COMMITED, BELIEVING, GOD-FEARING, DUTIFUL, SAINTLY, HOLY, PRAYERFUL, PRACTICING.


INTRODUCTION
E
very family, kindred and nation is sustained by her youth. The future of every human community depends largely on the resourcefulness of her youth.
·                    The quality of the youth in every family depends on the quality of education the Youth has received.
·                    Every youth acts according to the knowledge within.
·                    Knowledge directs Zeal. [The worldly youth is Having the zeal of God, but without knowledge]
·                    What do you know? [My people perish due to lack of knowledge]
·                    Godly Knowledge is expressed as Wisdom, Intelligence and Understanding

ü    THE POWER OF CHOICES
Choice is a matter of decision and decision is the power of live
·                    The youth have targets according to their desires in life.
·                    At the minimum age of sixteen, many young people have taken the decision to leave their parents in the pursuit of higher education or acquiring one trade or craft.
·                    The first choice a human being makes is the God he or she will worship

ü    VISION & MISSION
I
n CV’s, the youth want a respective employer to believe that he or she is one that has initiative, who can work as a team member and with the capacity to work with minimal supervision.
2.           The army, Banks, sports and the civil service requires the services of young people who are recruited and are subsequently trained by experienced superiors for the achievement of some objectives. In many cases the age limit is 25 years.
3.           Every company has a VISION The vision of a company is sustained by the MISSION STATEMENT A company must develop its core values from its Vision and Mission statement.
4.           The strength of every company lie in its Managers who work with the Company’s policies and the conditions of service.
5.           The basic function of a manager is to discover and coordinate the available human capital and their inherent resources.

UNDERSTAND YOUR ROLE; BE CONSCIOUSNESS OF THE HOUR AND KNOW WHAT IS NEEDED. IN LINE WITH THESE THREE PROFESSIONS AND PERSONALITIES.
·                    SOLDIER [loyal & patriotic to the nation. Defends the territorial integrity of his/her nation]
·                    FARMER [Patience]
·                    ATHLETE [follows the approved way. Runs on his track]
[2 Timothy 2:1 - 7]

THE SIX MAJOR CHALLENGES TO THE GODLY YOUTH AND THEIR CONSEQUENCES
GODLY YOUTHS ARE THE ONLY ENEMY OF THE DEVIL LEFT HERE ON EARTH
Consider the following circumstances and take your position immediately.

Ø    THE DISOBEDIENCE OF SATAN:
6.           Behold, thy Lord said to the angels: "I will create a vicegerent on earth." They said: "Wilt Thou place therein one who will make mischief therein and shed blood?- whilst we do celebrate Thy praises and glorify Thy holy [name]?" He said: "I know what ye know not."
7.           And He taught Adam the names of all things; then He placed them before the angels, and said: "Tell me the names of these if ye are right." They said: "Glory to Thee, of knowledge We have none, save what Thou Hast taught us: In truth it is Thou Who art perfect in knowledge and wisdom." He said: "O Adam! Tell them their names."
8.            When he had told them, Allah said: "Did I not tell you that I know the secrets of heaven and earth, and I know what ye reveal and what ye conceal?" And behold, We said to the angels: "Bow down to Adam" and they bowed down. Not so Iblis: he refused and was haughty: He was of those who reject Faith. Surah 2:30 – 34

Ø    THE DEVICES OF SATAN:
9.           For I saw all the angels of punishment abiding there and preparing all the instruments of Satan. And I asked the angel of peace who went with me: 'For whom are they preparing these instruments?' And he said to me: 'They prepare these for the kings and the powerful of this earth, that they may with them be destroyed. 1 Book of Enoch 53:2 – 5

WE ARE LIVING IN THE DAYS OF THE SON OF MAN
10.       But as the days of Noah were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noah entered into the ark, and knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of THE SON OF MAN be. Mathew 24:37 - 39

Ø    THE DESTRUCTION OF ONE OF NOAH’S SONS.
11.       And Noah called upon his Lord, and said: "O my Lord! surely my son is of my family! and Thy promise is true, and Thou art the justest of Judges!" He said: "O Noah! He is not of thy family: For his conduct is unrighteous. So ask not of Me that of which thou hast no knowledge! I give thee counsel, lest thou act like the ignorant!" Surah 11: 45 – 46





Ø    REMEMBER JACOB’S DAUGHTER
12.       And Dinah the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. Genesis 34:1 – 2

Ø    YOUTH, WHO IS YOUR MATE? WHO IS YOUR FRIEND
·                    I have seen friends everywhere but I have not seen a friend among the heathens
·                    The worst friend is a school friend. If he is your friend, why is he not in the fellowship of the saints with you
·                    You have no mate, no friend, no brother, no sister, no father, no mother except one who is in Christ
·                    My people mingle with the heathen; thus they become as good-for-nothing as half-baked cake! Hosea 7:8


WHY THE COMPROMISE, INSTEAD
OF SEPARATION?
 

INFERIORITY COMPLEX:

U
ninformed inferiority can cause somebody to steal, to defend the ego he does not have. I am telling you that it can cause someone to borrow money to entertain the world.
2.           He can even borrow money to buy a car when he has no means of paying back. you have to narrow yourself down here. In order to cover nothing, uninformed inferiority, you over work yourself.
3.           You can over work yourself, go without food, go without anything, because you want to live in a barrowed robe, a borrowed uniform, a borrowed dress. You want to give another impression of what you are.
4.           one that does not declare his capacity is always estimated to be beyond his limit. Your dress can cover everything, not your impoverished estate.
5.           Your dress can cover everything including the blemishes on your body. The dress will cover all. But it can never cover poverty. If you are poor, you are poor. Both mentally and materially.
6.           Remember you are not poor simply because you have no money in your pocket. You are poor because you are morally bankrupt. You have no moral value.
7.           That is why you over estimate yourself which is uninformed inferiority complex. WALK WITH ME; 19TH FEBRUARY, 2017; Pg. 27 vs. 25 – 28
v    FEELING OF INSECURITY:
8.           When genuine disciples strive to think and act in harmony and in conformity with the teachings of Christ (the Anointed One, the Messiah) unbelievers or renegades or those who make pretense of practicing His teachings may look down on them as though they are undesirable foreigners.
9.           The views of these counterfeit children of God that are mixed up with you in your Congregations or that of the unbelieving world around you should not make you, as a child of God, to begin to feel ashamed or doubtful of your CONVICTION with you professed Faith in Christ. From the divine stand point, your alien status as a child of God is one of virtue and dignity that is enviable.
10.       You may not know that sometimes, people around you envy your behaviour as a foreigner and would even desire to be like you, even without making it known to you. FAMILY MENU VOLUME 1; Pg. 5 vs. 10 – 13
v    DESIRE FOR UNCONTROLLED INDEPENDENCE AND FREEDOM
11.       It is worthy of note that when you are old enough to take your own decisions anyhow without guide, be courageous to bear the consequences without succour.
12.       As you make you bed, so you lie on it. A Road Safety official was quoted as telling some errant drivers who were arrested for various traffic offences that as you make your bend, so you die on it.

v    INFLUENCE!
13.       The character and personality of every human being is controlled by the following factors
·                    THE THINGS YOU SEE
·                    THE THINGS YOU HEAR
·                    THE BOOKS YOU READ
·                    THE PEOPLE YOU INTERACT WITH
14.       The lack of control or guidance in the exposure to the four factors above will definitely lead to the following vices
§     CULTISM and GANGSTERISM
§     PORNOGRAPHY, SEXUAL PLEASURES &PERVERSIONS
§     ALCOHOLISM &DRUG ABUSE
§     LOTTERY &GAMBLING (NaijaBet, Lotto, try-you-luck etc.)
§     YAHOO-YAHOO (cybercrimes, Advance fee fraud and 419)
§     OSTENTATIOUS LIVING
15.       Any true child of God that is influenced away from his or her conviction of what he or she knows to be the truth. from God on any matter; be it conduct, order or doctrine, must have walked by sight and no longer by divine revelation!
16.       You cannot desire or imitate the world’s way of talking, dressing, drinking, eating etc, until you are out of the way of truth.
17.       Since we have recognized ourselves as children of the Most High God, as aliens and temporary residents in this fast passing system of things, we can no longer afford to allow ourselves to become unduly attached to anything within the now existing human framework.
18.       No earthly ties, sorrows, joys or possessions are permanent. Time and unforeseen occurrences befall all people and can change one's circumstances steadily and dramatically.
19.       Therefore, for us to be completely absorbed in sorrows and joys that are the products of these ever changing circumstances and relationships, could work against our drawing closer to the Most High God and our Creator and this must be disastrous to us.
20.       The situation of the majority among us in this Bridal Faith, demonstrates very clearly that we have lost the vision of the Divine Promise of God, which He sealed with an oath, and the Divine Covenant, which He entered into with us when His glory came down among us.
21.       Some are generally either not aware of God's Divine Promise of a better and more glorious and permanent abode with Him which will culminate into eternity, or they have no real faith in such a coming New Righteous Order from God the Almighty even when He has confirmed the Promise in our day by vindicating His Chosen Vessel from among us to bear His Name and confirm the Promise before many witnesses. FAMILY MENU VOLUME 1; Pg. 6 vs. 19 – 25

v    AVAILABILITY & POSSESSION OF DANGEROUS PASSIONS AND EQUIPMENT (IDOLS)
·                    MONEY [the unrighteous mammon]
·                    ACADEMIC PURSUIT [modern day idol]
·                    CAR [moving casket]
·                    TELEVISION [evil box]
·                    COMPUTERS & ANDROID HANDSETS [dangerous equipment that should not be found in the hands of fools]
·                    INTERNET / THE SOCIAL MEDIA (Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp, YouTubeetc)
·                    MUSIC & FILMS[when did you turn to the deposed king Saul]
22.       Today, we can boast of building goodly houses, riding jeeps which we could not ride in the past; having children in the universities at all levels. We have been blessed with handworks of all types.
23.       Some are using even academic pursuit to replace the pursuit of the Faith of Christ. I mean, ACADEMIC PURSUIT HAS BECOME THE MEASUREMENT FOR BELIEVING GOD, WHICH IS IDOLATRY.
24.       Yes! Gradually gradually, their hearts drifted away from the true God. What infatuated their hearts became eating and drinking, desire to become controllers of the wealth of the world. .... THE YEAR OF THE FAITHFUL; 5th January 2014, Pg. 138 vs. 64 – 65
25.       Let us be very careful. Some of you even use those ungodly musics as your phone ring tones. A situation where you see somebody walking up and down with handset in the house, with the left hand he is holding the handset and playing music from morning till night. You see, the devil is very trickish. THE DEVIL DOES NOT WANT ANYBODY TO BE SAVED.
26.       When we disarmed you of facebook, the devil shifted it to handy music, computer music, those that erode your brain, erode the godly contents of your hearts and raises something that no human being can imagine in you as thought.
27.       The same thing is applicable to films. If you are having television or computers in your house, please be very careful. Check what you slot in. Otherwise, the devil you are avoiding can live with you ignorantly. THE YEAR OF THE FAITHFUL; 5th January 2014, Pg. 142 vs. 74 – 76

v    LANGUAGE IS THE STRONGEST WEAPON OF COMMUNITY SPIRIT
·                    PURGE YOUR THOUGHTS:
28.       THERE CAN NEVER BE EVIL CHARACTER WITHOUT EVIL THOUGHT, for the thoughts of a man directs His ways.
29.       Your thoughts direct your character whether you like it or not. Your thoughts even direct the words of your mouth, for out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. THE YEAR OF THE FAITHFUL; 5th January, 2014; Pg 146 vs. 6

v    AVOID CONDITIONS OF IDLE TALK, THE USE OF SLANGS, JESTING AND JOKING
30.       “....when we speak wrongly as a result of the use of dialects, affectations and inflections, slangs, due to lazy habits, stand still on the natural steps of the development of a language, they all debase the purity, and therefore affect the character of the people...”They will do what? They will debase the individual, debase his or her purity; and also affect the character of the individual wrongly because words are creative.
31.        IT IS THE CREATIVE POWER OF THE WORD THAT COMES OUT OF YOUR MOUTH THAT WILL DESTROY YOU OR SAVE YOU BECAUSE THE LIGHT ADDS PRESSURE ON THE WORD, BRINGING IT TO FULFILMENT. You can call it slang. That is why a child of God does not jest. ....FACING THE FACTS OF OUR FAITH; 9th October, 2005; Pg. 82 vs. 21 – 22
32.       In other words, the consequences of that wrong word you spoke out of lazy living and called it jesting or slang cannot be measured. You cannot measure the extent of its destructiveness in your life.
33.       God is saying we should be quiet. learn how to be calm and quiet, then you are a good person. I think He is a reasonable God.
34.       If we abide in the Light as I abide in the Light, we will be in pure fellowship with one another, devoid of disgrace and shame without debasing our purity which brings destruction to us through evil. FACING THE FACTS OF OUR FAITH; 9th October, 2005; Pg. 84 vs. 26.

v    NATIVE LANGUAGE:
35.       This is the gateway to contacting the spirit that controls your native community. You will always be attracted to and identify with anybody who speaks that language. It is a seductive attraction.

v    CONSEQUENCES OF FALLING PREY TO CHALLENGES TO THE GODLY YOUTH
·                    The D’s:      DISAPPOINTMENT
·                    DESPAIR
·                    DERANGEMENT
·                    DELLUSION
·                    DISORIENTATION
·                    DEPRESSION
·                    DESTRUCTION
·                    DISASTER
·                    DEATH
·                    DOOM

ETERNAL SEPARATION FROM THE ALMIGHTY GOD

SOLUTION:        
R
econnect to the Family’s Vision and Mission. As a Manager in this Faith, do you still remember the rule of your engagement? Do you still remember the Personality that has called you to glory and virtue?
2.           Do you still remember the revelation that has kept you in this Faith? Have you forgotten That the Ministry of Christ is in the hands of the Youth, both male and female? CROSSCHECK YOUR FOUNDATION.
3.           Reformat your heart and upload godly and edifying information that will not defile the heart again.
4.           Your heart is corrupt and the corruption has erased completely everything because the virus is still retained.
5.           You want to inject in new information, it gets there momentarily, within three minutes, it is erased because the virus is still at work.
6.           WHAT DO YOU DO IN THIS CIRCUMSTANCE, IF YOU MUST HAVE YOUR HANDSET, YOUR LAPTOP, THERE IS ONLY BUT ONE REMEDY.
7.           YOU MUST FLASH IT OR FORMAT IT TO GET RID OF EVERY INFORMATION, WHETHER GOOD OR BAD. 55Become a new born babe, innocent, immaculate, a new born babe.
8.           The moment you format your laptop, you discover that there is nothing wrong with the system. The system is still okay and perfect. Then you now install an up-to-date anti-virus protective program against virus.
9.           Begin now to seek information here and there which you have lost as a result of the attack. 57Go to people that are dependable, reload yourself again. And then from that day, begin to update that antivirus program which is the word of God.
10.       You renew your mind, renew the right spirit in you, by the entrance of the word of God in your heart daily. By meditating on things that are noble, things that are pure, things that are good, things that are of honest report. Let it become your habit. By these, you have fortified yourself.
11.       Finally, do not forget prayers. ....I AM BRINGING ALL FAMILIES BACK Vol. 2; 14TH MAY, 2017; Pg. 135 vs. 53 – 59.
12.       Always be conscious of your exalted position in Christ. As a Manager in this Faith, what is stipulated condition under which you are serving the LORD? THE CODE OF CONDUCT.
13.       Set targets for yourself both daily weekly, monthly yearly and lifelong target and make sure you keep to these targets in line with the vision of God for His Youths. As a Manager in this Faith, what is your vision or target? ETERNAL LIFE OR MATERIAL GAINS?
14.       And lastly, as a Manager in this Faith what is the mission (the means) to achieving your vision (your goal and target)? The Spoken Word mediated character is your only driver to success. Remember, WHEN CHARACTER IS LOST, EVERYTHING IS LOST
15.       Remain focused on THE SON OF MAN’S target for youths
16.       Pray at all times The Book of Jude 17 – 21 LB Dear friends, remember what the Apostles of our LORD Jesus Christ told you, that in the last times, there would come these scoffers whose whole purpose in life is to enjoy themselves in every evil way imaginable. They stir up arguments; they love the evil things of the world; they do not have the Holy spirit living in them.
17.       But you, dear friends, must build up your lives ever more strongly upon the foundation of our Holy faith, learning to pray in the power and strength of the Holy Spirit.
18.       Stay always within the boundaries where God’s love can reach and bless you. Wait patiently for the eternal life that our LORD Jesus Christ in his mercy is going to give you.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT:
19.       THE MOMENT YOU LOSE YOUR CONVICTION OF 1WHO YOU ARE, 2THE FAMILY YOU COME FROM, 3THE GOD YOU WORSHIP, 4YOUR AMBITION IN LIFE, YOU ARE GONE.
20.       You lose the conviction, the consciousness of who you are, the family you come from, whose interest you are representing, your ambition in life, who God is to you, you are gone. No more! Definitely, you will be a beast. MATRICULATION SPECIAL SERVICE PART 2 / KEY FOR SURVIVAL TO ALL STUDENTS; Preached on 31st January & 10th April, 2015 at the Student’s Fellowship of Michael Okpara University of Agriculture, Umudike & The Son of Man’s Family Altar respectively; Page 132 vs. 14 – 15
21.       Brethren, now that we are tidying up, we should sit down and ask ourselves question. 1WHAT IS MY RELATIONSHIP WITH THE ALMIGHTY GOD? 2WHAT IS MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FAMILY? 3WHAT IS MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BRETHREN? 4WHAT IS MY STAND WITH THE HEATHENS CONCERNING MY FAITH? These four things, we must surely consider them.
22.       [1] MY RELATIONSHIP WITH ALMIGHTY
23.       [2] MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FAMILY, MY WIFE, MY HUSBAND, MY CHILDREN.
24.       [3] MY RELATIONSHIP WITH THE BRETHREN, ALL THAT ARE PURCHASED OF CHRIST; THE HOUSEHOLD OF GOD GENERALLY WORLDWIDE,
25.       [4] THEN, MY STAND CONCERNING MY FAITH AMONG THE HEATHENS. These are the things you must consider now as we are tidying up.
26.       Anything that will make us unworthy that day, please, God is saying we should avoid it. BLOW THE TRUMPET IN ZION VOL. 2 PART 2; Sunday 25th May 2015; Pg. 12 vs. 12 – 14


                     THE SEPARATING LINE
UNGODLY YOUTH
GODLY YOUTH
A  ungodly youth has an IDOL

A godly youth follow a MODEL
A compromising bloody civilian
A disciplined soldier

Takes decisions on every matter

Consults God on every matter
Counts on what He can and has achieved

Depends on God
Uncontrollably Materialistic

Controlled by the Spirit (Word) of God
Proud and arrogant

Humble
Lacks boldness before God

Always in the presence of God
Incontinent and Ungrateful

Content and Appreciative
Selfish and self-centred

Generous
Truce-breaker

Faithful
Slanderer and false accuser

Honest
Rash and erratic
Calm and stable

Disobedient to constituted authority

Obedient to constituted authority
Totally unrepentant and unremorseful about evil deeds

Repentant and with contrite spirit
Believes in a world without end
Remembers that time is no more and the end is here
More interested in the present.

Thinks of tomorrow: The hereafter, a place in Paradise

Gambles with the Faith and partners Allah with other gods.
Is sure and certain about Whom he or she believes.

Already captured by the enemy of mankind

Settled in the hollow if God’s hand
Intellectuality is for competition, show-off and class distinction

Intellectual development is for the furtherance of the Faith of Christ
LAZY “Others are already doing what I wanted to do.” “The condition I find myself is how God made me.”
A godly youth is an Active Volcano whose absence is always greatly felt.


AWAKE THOU THAT SLEEPETH FOR
THE NIGHT IS FAR SPENT

ARE YOU NOW RECONNECTED?
HAVE YOU NOW RESOLVED TO BE DIRECTED BY CHRIST’S VISION?
WHOSE SERVICE WILL HAVE YOUR CREATIVITY, ENERGY AND CAPACITY?

A GODLY YOUTH [THE STRENGTH, HOPE AND FUTURE OF THE FAMILY] IS THE ONLY TARGET OF THE DEVIL.

YOU are the YOUTH

YOUTH: YOUR OWN USEFULNESSTOUCHES HEAVEN


REFERENCES
Blow The Trumpet In Zion Vol. 2 Part 2; 2015; BCMW; Pg. 12 vs. 12 – 14
FACING THE FACTS OF OUR FAITH; 2005; Pg. 82 vs. 21 – 22
FACING THE FACTS OF OUR FAITH; 2005; BCMW; Pg. 84 vs. 26.
Family Menu Volume 1;BCMW; Pg. 5 vs. 10 – 13
https://en.unesco.org/youth
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/youth
https://www.un.org/esa/socdev/documents/youth/fact-sheets/youth-definition.pdf
I Am Bringing All Families Back Vol. 2; 14th May, 2017; BCMW; Pg. 135 vs. 53 – 59.
1 Book of Enoch 53:2 – 5.
Matriculation Special Service Part 2 / Key For Survival To All Students; 2015; BCMW; Page 132 vs. 14-15
The Book of 2 Timothy 2:1 – 7
The Book of 2 Timothy 3:1 – 6
The Book of Genesis 34:1
The Book of Hosea 7:8
The Book of Jude 17 – 21
The Book of Mathew 24:37
The Holy Qur’an – Surah 2:30 – 34
The Holy Qur’an – Surah 7:63
The Holy Qur’an – Surah 11:25 – 49 [40 – 49]
The Year of the Faithful; 2014; BCMW Pg. 138 vs. 64 – 65
The Year of the Faithful; 2014; BCMW Pg. 142 vs. 74 – 76
The Year of the Faithful; 2014; BCMW; Pg. 146 vs. 6
Walk with Me; 2017; BCMW; Pg. 27 vs. 25 – 28

WHY DIFFCULTY IN CHOOSING
A LIFE PARTNER FROM AMONG US?
BY
SISTER ALICE UKPONG


INTRODUCTION:
T
he importance of this matter at stake can never be over-emphasized; therefore I will like to make you to understand the topic very well in a layman’s language before I forge ahead considering the age difference among us. Using a Dictionary, I will like to put together bits and pieces of definitions.

DEFINITION OF TERMS:
Life: Life could mean any of the following:
·                    Life is a state of living
·                    The state of being alive as a human being. An individual person’s       existence.
·                    The period of time when something exists or functions.
·                    The activities and experiences that is typical of a particular way of living.

If I may ask, supposed children of the son of man do we have a particular way of living?
v    Partner:
2.           The person you are married to or having a sexual relationship   with. Please note there was a marriage before the sex. Other meanings   include going into business deal but we are not here to talk about business     of buying and selling so I stop here.
3.           From the definitions if it were not for time factor, I will ask you one    by one to tell me what you understand “Life Partner to mean.” However, we can say that a Life Partner is the person you are married to when you are alive as a human being and this partner is going to be part of your activities and experiences that are typical of particular way of living.
4.           Human existence that is, life is involved here, many have chosen their life partners and they are regretting. Our God, the Son of Man said “Marriage should be seen as a life contract of divine love and truth and not a mere social interaction between a man and a woman …” We must choose           correctly to reap the dividends.
5.           So right now, we want to look into why it is difficult for you to choose a life partner from among us. You know “among us” mean we that are in the faith of the Son of Man.
6.           I see myself right now as a mother sitting in the sitting room with my children surrounding me and I want to talk to them on practical things   about life as I have learnt from my MAKER, GOD and FATHER.
7.           I am not      here to quote messages for you for the Bride of Christ have become the           word and we have a language so pay attention as I outline some of your difficulties before I briefly explain them.
·                    Willful forgetfulness
·                    Unprincipled life
·                    Ungodly friendship
·                    Worldliness/sophistication/taste
·                    Promiscuous life/practice of promiscuity 
·                    Prayerless life
·                    Lack of godly awe
·                    Rejection of truth (God’s word)
·                    Inferiority complex
·                    Bad counselor
·                    Myopic vision
·                    Financial disability

v    WILLFUL FORGETFULNESS:
8.           Many of you feign not to know who you are, that you are a son and a daughter of God. Secondly, that you come from a family where your earthly parents are trying their best to live a godly life and are also impacting the same into your life.
9.            A good child protects the image of his family living according to the precepts and characteristics of the family. Among the children of Jacob, the daughter went out to marry not from among the Jews do you remember the problem it caused. It brought pain and sorrow. What did Allah say in the Holy Qu’ran, that we should not allow our children to marry the heathens.
10.       The ways of the righteous are ordered of the Lord but because of your unrighteous ways you can no longer remember who you are.
11.       In psychology of education, there is what is called “Motivated forgetting” it occurs when you suppress certain information and I will say your refusal to acknowledge who you are, that you are a child of God and have been taught a particular way of life is one of the reason why you find it difficult to choose a life partner from among us. God said we should practice what we have been taught else we are not His own. 

v    UNPRINCIPLED LIFE:
12.       This is where influence comes in. You do not know what you want. You can easily have a change of mind concerning something good simply because either you have heard a different opinion or you are like the neck of a bicycle which is nothing but a robot, that can be turned in any direction.
13.       If you do not have personal decisions of your own on what you want like the Rechabite children you will always have difficulties about everything concerning life. An unprincipled fellow does not know what is good for him or her.
14.       When I knew not what you know now, I refused to be influenced away from my principle. During my school days, I was being attracted to    high socialite groups even though I was from a low class background, I   mean female ones, maybe because I can play and I smile a lot.
15.       They take me to places with their big shot friends. At the round table, everyone orders drinks, wines of assorted grades, but when it gets to my turn, I will ask for mineral and everybody will get offended.
16.       There is nothing they will say, that will change my mind. I will refuse even the one they claim has the mildest alcohol, because then, I do not know how to drink and I do not      want to learn drinking.
17.       So, if you are principled about life, you will know what is good for you, what you want and you can choose correctly because       as a child of God, your principles are guided by the word of God.

v    UNGODLY FRIENDSHIP:
18.       Can we have friends that do not believe our faith? The answer is YES. To what extent is such friendship? Such friendship is either because I do business with you, you are my classmate I will get note from you or we will         have group study etc. Once such businesses are over at that particular       time our friendship is over.
19.        A situation whereby you walk on the street 24/7 with someone that does not believe or have your faith, what will you be talking about. Some of our youths in the higher institutions of learning prefer to have heathens as their roommates, even when brethren are in the same school with them. My daughter is guilty of this.
20.        Your eagle godly eyes will be plugged out and you can no longer have good judgment. Black colour will become white colour to your eyes, the ugly will become beautiful forgetting that beauty is nothing but character and there is no good character anywhere except among us.
21.       When your spiritual eyes have been plugged and you can no longer see, is it possible for you to make choice of colours? So it is with choosing a life partner.

v  WORLDLINESS/SOPHISTICATION/TASTE:
22.       This is a very dangerous spirit found in our youth today. They can no longer differentiate between left and right. The youths forget that everything according to Saint Paul is lawful but not everything is expedient for them to practice example, in a way of dressing, communication, jest, speech and what not.
23.       Some of our daughters have become so so conscious of their good looks, all they do is to work to protect it. When they leave home, they leave with one box of clothes and come back with three boxes.
24.       They use the money for their up keeps to buy clothes. Some clothes they wear in the school, they dare not put it on at home, forgetting that   someone is watching them at school. They now have high taste.
25.       Their level of sophistication has made them to look down on the brothers that are not like them and would want to approach them for a choice of life partner.
26.       Once they cross that peak when they are hot cakes, that is when brothers approach them for marriage, they become senior ladies; it will take the Amazing Grace of God for senior ladies to marry.
27.       We also       have Mr. handsome brothers who will weigh, measure the leg, the hip, figure eight (8), shape of the face and if it does not meet their standard they will look elsewhere.
28.        Some sisters will say, that marriage is slavery in the faith, because they do not want to be submissive. They want to do what they want outside the word of God.

v    PROMISCUOUS LIFE/PRACTICE OF PROMISCUITY:
29.       This means the practice of having sex just for the fun of it. Money is not involved. How does it affect life partner? It gives you bad name, because       the story goes around.
30.       It can make the men to become suspicious of their spouse capable of practicing infidelity even after marriage. Sex is not sin      but there is dignity in remaining a virgin both female and male.
31.       The same brothers that you practice promiscuity with are the ones going about discussing among themselves, saying “I have gotten her” or “that girl is a difficult one.” They ones they cannot get, they call them the “difficult        ones.”
32.        In time of marriage, the difficult ones are the choice of many. When the brothers have eaten the “forbidden apple” with you so much, before marriage, they no longer want you. 

v    PRAYERLESS LIFE:
33.       Our youths do not know how to talk to God their Father. Some do not know how to pray. I was handling Children Sunday school somewhere, sometime ago, I asked a child of 12 years old then to lead us in prayer and the child could not utter just one word. It was an eye opener for the parents.
34.       The Son of Man taught us, how to sit our babies on the bed, while we kneel down to pray, so that by watching us, it will be a teaching aid to them. I do not know what the young mothers of today are doing and teaching their children.
35.       When you do not know how to pray, who will direct you away from the wrong path and help you to do the right? I mean consistent         prayer not when you are in need you remember God.
36.       Once our youths leave home just the morning and evening prayer, how many are honest to say they pray. A real Muslim child away from home knows when to do abolition and pray.
37.       Consistent prayer helped me when I went back to school to improve myself after having my children in obedience to the voice of the Son of Man that we should improve ourselves.
38.       While I was in school, on the road, on the bed and everywhere, I was praying saying, that I must leave a record behind as a daughter of God. With prayer, I never had a carryover.
39.       In addition, I graduated at a distinction level from Federal Polytechnic, Bauchi. I was the only one in my whole Department of Food Science and Technology and the Department of Nutrition and Dietetics that graduate at that level in my time. So prayer is the key to success in everything.   

v    LACK OF GODLY AWE:
40.       If you fear God with respect because you know His dos and don’ts, you will be trying your best to study to practice righteousness.
41.       When you are doing this, the spirit of God will be encouraging you and helping you spiritually.

v    REJECTION OF TRUTH (GOD’S WORD):
42.       There is no aspect of life which the son of man our God has not touched with His word. Our God said and I quote from Family Menu, volume one, page 6, verse 19 “Any true child of God that is influenced away from his or her conviction of what he or she know to be the truth from God on any matter; be it conduct, order or doctrine, must have walked by sight and no longer by divine revelation.
43.       ” Don’t we have teachings on marriage, don’t we have doctrine, conduct, you must have fallen away, backslide for you to have difficulty in whatever you are doing.
44.       At the time you are having difficulties, you no longer have a guide who is the word living and walking           among us, the Son of Man.

v    INFERIORITY COMPLEX:
44.       There was a time our God said when others are crawling, crawl and follow, when they are running, run and follow but many paid deaf ears. God asked us to improve ourselves.
45.       God gave us the message titled “Prime Movers” all about education is there. The youths then and even now were finding it      difficult to approach the educated ones because of a truth there is a difference between the educated and uneducated.
46.       Sometimes, love is not all about money to buy food and clothes, but understanding in relationship.

v    BAD COUNSELLOR:
47.       Choosing a life partner is a matter of life and death. You can be alive physically but you are already dead spiritually. Who is your counselor concerning all this important matter? Your mother, father, friends or relations? Outside God being your counselor through His word you are hitting an uncrackable rock of your life.
48.       Bad counselors will give you all the reasons why you should not choose that person even when their allegations cannot be proven so be careful.

v    MYOPIC VISION:
49.       What do you picture about your life, family, future? Paradise on earth or hell on earth? What you want will make you to seek wisdom to choose          appropriately.
50.       Our God the Son of Man said, it is a disaster for one to live a     plan less life, for one that refuses to plan, is planning to fail.
51.       Anybody that         has no plan, has nothing to execute, (Seven Steps to Realizing the Promises of God). You must have a vision of tomorrow.
52.       Have a vision concerning your future and have a vision of what you will like to be and           why you will like to be that thing. When your vision is guided by the word of God, you will not have difficulty in choosing a life partner. 

v    FINANCIAL DISABILITY:
53.       I have to give it this big name so that you will know that as long as we remain in this mortal flesh, money cannot be ruled out.
54.       Education is good, but not everybody can be equally educated. To every man, there is a woman of his level for him.
55.        But the man who has made himself idle without a means of livelihood, how can he approach a woman for marriage?
56.       Most especially they have been taught very well on how to take care of the family and they cannot afford the cost of marriage, because they have refused to obey the voice of their God. They refused to run while others are running. You see them overripe but single. Even the sisters would not accept a man she knows very well that cannot cater for her.
57.        God said, when the girls are eating one piece of meat in their father’s house, in    their husbands home, they should eat four pieces.
58.        Some sisters here are eating periwinkle and the man coming to them cannot afford periwinkle. How can they accept such a man for a life partner.
  
CONCLUSION
I
 leave you with a word of advice, go back to the word of our God, be obedient. Obedience to the word of God will guide you not to have difficulties in choosing a life partner who will give you a peaceful successful life that leads to longevity as our God has promised us.
2.           For those of you that are yet to know what you are doing, hear what the son of man said in the message Success Visions, page 76, verse 37-38.
3.             Remember that the picture of yourself that you see is what you will surely become. Always be a positive thinker and picture positively for you cannot feature in a future that you cannot picture.
4.           Remember that this world is full of ups and downs. Get up, stand up, sit up, read up, think up, move up, make it up, cover up but do not mess up. God loves you.
          Thank you and remain blessed.